I wear a higher-rise pants ( maybe an inch under my navel), and tops that end on the belt, or 2 inches lower. This way, there's no need for tucking. I don't actually have jeans with flaps, but I like to wear mine with either tunic length, or short tops as to not bisect my already minute derrière. I try to find ruched and/or printed and or draped top to wear when I chose them short, to give some sophistication. Otherwise is too much "jeans and a tee" look. Also I have some wowen button downs that have a belt incorporated, so It shows the above-my-waist length, then flare over the actual misdection but end happily just above my behind. Also you can achieve an interesting look by layering a fitted top with cardi that is short in the back and long in the front. Also, i have a hipster plaid ( black and red) button down that I wear open a black tank . This is not a shaped "femme" belted look so I have a waist surrender ( boxy shit) over the top , and being not very long the rear view is clear. I'm not very coherent but I can post pics if you are interested in my formulas.
