I believe the kikiriki model is wearing nipple covers (unless she’s wearing nothing and has her nipples pixelated). She’s certainly not wearing a bra. And the fashion nova model is showing a lot of cheek.
As for the other I did recover from a series of bad relationships and, through therapy, had to learn to get a healthy view of my sexuality. Now, after a long period of celibacy, I am celebrating once again becoming a sexual being.

I think I prefer the kikiriki. The model looks like she could be a bad a$$ and blade runneresque in that one. In some ways, I find the first prettier, but can’t imagine it in any setting where, tbh, I don’t feel it might fall a little flat. All right, I might as well go all the way and say what I see is someone’s husband saying, ‘Why are you wearing that?’ and killing the mood dead.

The kirikiri one looks superhero badass. Not the cup of tea of most here as we are an older age group - but you do you, and what you and your group feel comfortable in. Hope you have an amazing bachelorette!

But why would you celebrate your sexuality with your girlfriends? That makes no sense to me. Do your girlfriends REALLY want to see this much of you? It seems far more appropriate to celebrate this aspect of yourself with your soon to be Dh.

Thanks Rachylou! I like your take on the kikiriki. It can look bada$$ and a little blade runner. As far as the other no one’s husband will see it. It’ll just be me and my girls there, an old school girls only bachelorette. I’ll wear a short tuxedo dress over it to the party, which will look sexy af to begin with, then I’ll whip it off at the party and put the sexy in overdrive!

Thanks Roxanna! I’m finding out it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But we all have our individual styles and ways and we can be open to each other.

Thanks Echo. To answer your question I’m celebrating with my girls because they know what I’ve been through and they’ve been endlessly supportive. They’ve rooted for me through thick and thin. They know me and we’re all comfortable with it. Everyone agrees it’s a healthy and safe way to express my sexuality.

Even my therapist said it was a healthy display of confidence.

I just wanted to say I understand about no husband seeing the bachelorette outfit... but to be clear, I’m saying I don’t think having only close friends see it makes that first body suit work... I find that first body suit, while pretty, a strange thing. The second one, I’m like, yeah, that rocks! Just my reaction tho.

By the first bodysuit are you referring to the Natori? And by the second one are you referring to the kikiriki with the crystals? If so I am coming around to your point of view. I do agree that one rocks! I’m leaning toward that one. I think the crystals would give it a little more mystery if I am basically naked under it.

You know there will be pictures taken at the party, especially of you. Do you want your future mother or father-in-law or even your future husband Or his friends to see you dressed this way? This is the era of Facebook, instagram or using texting to send photos.
I am old and bachelorette parties are a rather recent thing. I have been married over 50 years to the same guy and never had such a party or been to one. Remember that you want to look like a nice girl to your boyfriend’s parents. As a mother-in-law, I would be horrified.

I totally respect your opinion Joy. My husband to be knows my plans and is totally supportive because he knows my reasons. As far as the pictures I would only do this with people I absolutely trust. And I trust all my girls totally. All the pictures will be with the tuxedo on or will be strategically shot to keep them suitable. I would have to approve every picture. What I’m doing is not for public consumption. As far as in laws go I’m sure there are many things you didn’t share with yours, especially about your sexuality and I’m sure your children haven’t shared everything like that with you. This is about me, my husband and my friends.

Yes - I’m calling the Natori the first body suit and the kikiriki the second. And yeah the more I compare, the more I think *kikiriki: rockin’!*, *Natori: Huh, I don’t get it*

Also, the crystals say ‘party’ and ‘occasion’ to me. Actually, you know what? I realise I have a lace body suit - not a full body suit, but still. I used to wear it with a buttoned blazer for an *ordinary* weekend night out, doing Dynasty (the show). I think. Probably I mostly just wore it as a piece of underwear that was easy to put on in the morning and then a PITA the rest of the day, lol... yeah, no, strong vote for the kikiriki, now that I’ve thought of that, lol

Thanks Rachylou! You’re right! The bling of the crystals does say “party” in a loud voice! That sounds like a hot date night outfit, the lace bodysuit with the blazer. What did you wear under it? The model on the kikiriki site is wearing just nipple covers, the way I want to wear it. What do you think of that? I think that makes it really “party”!! Do you agree?

I’m pretty sure I wore nothing under it and never took off the jacket. Mind you, I wear a puffer in summer, lol

I think they got the model’s underwear just right. Like flower pasties would be weak and lazy. Yeah! I’m callin’ it!

I like the way you think girl! I like the nude nipple covers too but what do you think about black heart nipple covers like these:

https://www.yandy.com/Black-Sa.....lsrc=aw.ds

I like the panties too but I was thinking about going more minimal with something like this:

https://us.laperla.com/thong-i.....vers-lace/

What do you think about that?

I agree that flower pasties would be weak and lazy, so would x’s. I would probably go with nude ones like the model.

The black hearts are funny fun... but I like the idea of a plain solid canvas all around underneath, top and bottom, no conflicting pattern to clash with the bead work of the suit, nothing to get between the idea of skin and suit. It’s really a showpiece.

... and maybe that’s why the Natori doesn’t win me. Just hanging out in your underwear is not enough for me... lol.

I get what you’re saying, girl! You like just a seamless overall nude look, like there’s nothing under the catsuit. For that I’d need a brown skin nude thong like this one:
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/sk.....ng/5679934

And nipple covers like these:

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ni.....olor=creme

That would leave just the idea of suit and skin, the illusion of total nudity under the suit without that actually being the case. Is that what you had in mind?

The thong in jasper and the nipple covers in coco

Yes. Just so. I feel that’s strong. Bold and in your own skin... but of course, legal.

Thanks! I like how you put that; strong, bold and in my own skin. Thanks for understanding and seeing how empowering this is to me.

I’m sorry you’ve been pressured to explain your life, but appreciate you pointing out on this forum that healthy sexuality doesn’t have to mean hidden away. How great to have supportive friends to help you through that, and now to be in a relationship with a man who wants you to heal! Reminds me of a friend who moved to London from the USA to get married. A couple things were odd at the wedding, he turned out to be abisive, a distant relative who lived in Wales invited her to stay with him after the divorce while she recovered a little. You can guess the rest—fell in love, married, oldest of 4 kids is now in university. They’ve had their ups and downs, she’s glad they live near her sister now, but that caring support has always been important to them.

Anyway, go team Avengers (the blingier catsuit)!

Maybe more protective underwear, at least on the bottom? I don't think it would detract from the overall boldness of the outfit and it might give you more freedom, a little more sporty?

Since we've introduced photos, skin tone underwear might interrupt the visual less but in person up close it can have a costume-y look that black does not.

Maybe some kind of delicate jeweled belt to define the waist?

Thanks Phoebe. I know the problems with skin tone underwear and trying to achieve a seamless nude look with it. If it’s not perfect it won’t look right. Really the only thing to do is order it and then see how close it comes. I might order black as a backup in case I can’t get the perfect match, something like this:

https://laperla.com/black-leavers-lace-thong/

Or this:

https://laperla.com/thong-in-black-leavers-lace/

Love the idea of the delicate jeweled belt! A little subtle bling might really make the look pop!

Just wanted to suggest a sexy slip dress instead. Easy to dress up or down, you can wear it on other occasions, and it leaves something to the imagination so photos aren't a concern.

I love love love sexy slip dresses but I see that as more something for a date night with hubs than a bachelorette outfit. I would wear a sexy slip dress then halfway through the date tell him I’m not wearing anything under it and watch his anticipation build! For my bachelorette I want to go all out and to me that means sheer.

A dress like this might also work:
https://www.amazon.com/Womens-.....&th=1

Thoughts anyone?

I like your plan of the long blazer/dress over catsuit, because then you can choose in the moment whether you want to take it off right away or just want to do one dance in it, later on. With the dress, I don’t see how you get that option. Seems you’d wear a coat over it. Then you would either be wearing a coat indoors or the sheer dress, but not the in-between option that the dress gives you.