Hi everyone,

I had one of those moments this a.m. when a few threads that have been percolating in my brain come together and make me slap my forehead and wonder why that hadn't sunk in before ...

Between my general obsession with systematization, a comment Carla made a while ago about 'shadow persona' and a book I grabbed on Kindle to amuse me as well as another, more serious book written by a Buddhist author, I realize I need to make more space for all the pieces of me in my life and (relevant to this group) my closet.

Because I am so focused on simplifying and systematizing, I believe I have tried to simplify a few bits of myself right out of the picture. This is part of why I can be twirly with my ideas about style, wardrobe, etc. Because you can try to get rid of a bit of yourself, but that pesky bugger will keep showing up regardless.

From a sartorial perspective, there seems to be four pieces that I need to do a better job of integrating and making space for.

The classic: I got this. This is my foundation. It's expressed through my (personal, not political) conservatism, my love of simple, tried and true piece, classic and subtle colours, and safe choices. Style icon: Kate Middleton Natural habitat: Business casual settings or lunch with the in-laws.

The minimalist: This bit is quiet and a bit overprotective at times. This is the part of me that I talk about when I talk about how uncomfortable I am if I run into someone I don't know well or am intimidated by, and am wearing something colourful or personal. This is the part of my that wears black and uber-simple lines. This is my armour and my bodyguard and I appreciate it! Style icon: Angelina Jolie Natural habitat: Anywhere setting where I am uncomfortable or might run into a snob!

The natural: This is the part of me I learned from my parents. This part of me is practical and can't stand fuss or airs. This is the part of me that rolls her eyes at the classic when she puts lipstick on to go workout. Style icon: Jennifer Aniston Natural habitat: Running errands, day to day activities.

The sparkle: This is the part of me that really jumped out during my musings. This is the part of me that is still connected to my younger self before I started worrying about what other people thought of my appearance or style. This is the part of me that loves pink and bright pops of colour and choosing different lip or nail colours all the time. This is the part of my that delights my kids when I get in a silly mood and just start playing with them rather than mothering them. Interestingly, this is the part of me that my other parts tend to look down on or deem a failure. So I may have to be brave and nurture this part a little. Because this is the part that won't put up with being completely systematized and controlled - which is a BIG dimension of the other part. It's still me, but with a wink and a bit of fun. And sometimes that looks like veering from a perfect plan to just enjoy. Style icon: Reese Witherspoon Natural habitat: Time with my family, anytime I am feeling totally comfortable in my surroundings.

Holy cow that's long ... sorry! I'll leave it there ... remains to be seen what this revelation looks like. I think I can be more conscious of matching my style choices to the habitat I'm going into, honouring the value of each part, and being very wary of trying to edit out one type in favour of another. Time will tell! If you could stand this, thanks for reading and do share any thoughts or if you can relate at all! xoxox