First world problem.

I am worried sick about my new glasses.

As soon as I brought them home, I didn't like how I looked in them. Over the next 2 weeks, I kept taking them on and off, putting my old ones on, or "workshopping" my look to make them work. I changed my hairdo, my makeup, my eyebrows. I tried on all my outfits. I sort of liked them with my makeup done very warm, my hair pushed high, and with one outfit. One outfit!

Glasses have changed my style before, but I felt it shouldn't be this hard. This was effortful, not effortless style. A friend said I should see if I can return them. Very scared, I emailed the shop (they don't encourage email but I couldn't bear to call them) saying a few things I felt were wrong for me about the frame. They said, don't worry, we can put the lenses in another frame.

When I went back I felt completely psyched out by the 2 desk ladies - they couldn't understand why I wasn't happy with their "most popular frame". I could tell you about the stonewall faces and the phony "honeys" I got, but it would be a very long story. Trying on frames was excruciating. I spent an hour there, and found nothing I liked. I said I'd have to come back later.

At home I thought, this is too hard. I don't have time to get babysitting, look around, settle on a mediocre pair of glasses. I emailed again to ask if I could return the frame (not the lenses of course) and get contact lenses.

They said (again stating this is not their usual policy) I could credit the cost of the frame towards contact lenses. The frame cost $569! I emailed back to ask how much contact lenses would be and would they refund the difference.

It has been over a day and I've heard nothing.

On top of that I did something else stupid: when I was leaving the shop one desk girl said "are you taking these?" (the glasses I want to return). I said "no, keep them here". I was afraid if I took them home they'd say I had them too long. Now I feel sick thinking they may deny they have them - I got no receipt, credit note, nothing, the transaction was in no way finalised.

I feel like I have no judgement whatsoever, when it comes to glasses, people, or spending money. I feel really scared about how this is going to turn out. I've lost my ability to discern what looks good on me, I just feel every time I look at my pictures and convince myself these glasses look ok, I see how they're not.

Oh yeah, they somehow look totally different to the first pics I posted here when considering them, which nearly everyone loved. They're not different frames; I see now I wasn't able to get an accurate shot of them in the shop.

A lady I know who looks amazing in her glasses said "you have to go to the right shop". Ouch. How right she is. I was seduced by these glasses, but everything else about this shop has me running away screaming. Why? Oh yeah, same reason for all the other stuff ups in my life. My decisions are impaired by being distracted by my kids, especially my 3 year old, and only being able to snatch a little time away from him - with much forward planning. I'm tired all the time because of them.