Scarlet, how did it go?
I’m kind of sad today myself. My sister (necklace sister) and her husband and their kids are at my parents’ house, just over two hours from here. Mom didn’t want to cook, didn’t want anyone else cooking, so they went to a buffet. We were not invited.
I’m undecided what I wanted to do for Christmas. When my son was little, we lived places that had direct flights to my parents’ house in Ohio (they winter in Florida, but go north for Christmas, because dad finds the palm trees incongruous). So my son and I had Christmas morning at home, as did my sisters with their husbands and kids, and then we all went to my parents’—them in cars, us on a plane. Mom was always very nasty about that, couldn’t see why I thought Christmas morning at home was special. She made it very clear every year that it we were delayed, there would be absolutely no waiting for us.
Now we have lived here for (ugh!) eight years. There is no direct flight, so we go up a couple of days ahead. Mom already has the table set and house decorated. Christmas Eve we eat cookies, recite The Night Before Christmas, and Dad reads from Matthew. Christmas morning my son opens his stocking and then we wait.
My sisters arrive around 2. Neither of them has the slightest interest in getting there earlier because they want to be with their families. The year my son kept his pjs on, waiting to open the things under the tree, it got a very poor response. He’s in high school now, so it isn’t as bad as a little kid hanging out and being bored Christmas morning (I talked to my parents about it every year and every year they said the next would be different, then made no attempt) but I’d still like that to be a special time for the two of us, instead of being shown how much we are second fiddles in the family as we wait for the important players to arrive.
The direct flight would get us there after presents, around dinner time. My sisters, especially the one who vacations in my parents’ Fla house for a couple weeks every summer (pj sister—one kid got married this summer and the other is splitting the pjs with me), will complain and give me so much flak. She claims to want to spend time with me, and wants me to purchase tix so we can do so before Christmas and she can go skiing the next day (also a sore spot) but can’t bring herself to even tell me when they are coming down, much less arrange their schedule around mine.
There are many reasons I want to move back to Germany. This is definitely one of them. We have dear friends on that side of the ocean who I would love to be near.