Hey YLF Family Angie wrote a great post this morning about cold shoulder tops. I remember her saying a long time ago dress for the life you lead another YLF sister gave me this title. It truly got me to thinking. When did my Imaginary life intersect with my Reality.

I know for me it happened at a very tramatic breaking point in my life. I was dumped unceremoniously and in a afwal way after 10yrs of a relationship. I remember it was after that I was determined to "get my life"

A little background. I always dressed for the WE not the ME always the perfect polished significant other and although I liked dressing this way. It became a chore and taxing. It was do you have your earrings is your lipstick in where are your heels. That outfit is not right go back and change. I lost myself.

I blossomed I started to go rock climbing, rollerskating, HOUSE dancing. I started to discover me and I had to wear clothing conducive to my new lifestyle. Without anyone telling me or critiquing what I was wearing I started to blossom. I started to discover and love who I was becoming.

Along with this I had acquired a new career path built myself esteem decided to be more caring loving and more present with the people I loved and did not love. I started to realize that I only have today and I would make it the best.

My next step was how to incorporate my imaginary life with my work life and my personal life. I had 3 different wadrobs. That is where YLF Family Angie Igne and even Greg came in. I love YLF because even though I probably listen to half the advise I read everything and watched the bold style choices of Annagybe, Rachylou Diana G and others.

It amazed me that a group could be so supportive and yet polar opposite. Most of all I loved Angie for giving me ACCEPTANCE. I asked her one day. Do you really mean the compliments you give? Her reply was swift and definite YES or I would not have said it. You know what? I believed her and never had another second thought.

So that is the short and long of it. My life imaginary and Real have met at that sweet spot at 42.

Thank you for reading

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