Imaginary VS Reality clothing. ...

Hey YLF Family Angie wrote a great post this morning about cold shoulder tops. I remember her saying a long time ago dress for the life you lead another YLF sister gave me this title. It truly got me to thinking. When did my Imaginary life intersect with my Reality.

I know for me it happened at a very tramatic breaking point in my life. I was dumped unceremoniously and in a afwal way after 10yrs of a relationship. I remember it was after that I was determined to "get my life"

A little background. I always dressed for the WE not the ME always the perfect polished significant other and although I liked dressing this way. It became a chore and taxing. It was do you have your earrings is your lipstick in where are your heels. That outfit is not right go back and change. I lost myself.

I blossomed I started to go rock climbing, rollerskating, HOUSE dancing. I started to discover me and I had to wear clothing conducive to my new lifestyle. Without anyone telling me or critiquing what I was wearing I started to blossom. I started to discover and love who I was becoming.

Along with this I had acquired a new career path built myself esteem decided to be more caring loving and more present with the people I loved and did not love. I started to realize that I only have today and I would make it the best.

My next step was how to incorporate my imaginary life with my work life and my personal life. I had 3 different wadrobs. That is where YLF Family Angie Igne and even Greg came in. I love YLF because even though I probably listen to half the advise I read everything and watched the bold style choices of Annagybe, Rachylou Diana G and others.

It amazed me that a group could be so supportive and yet polar opposite. Most of all I loved Angie for giving me ACCEPTANCE. I asked her one day. Do you really mean the compliments you give? Her reply was swift and definite YES or I would not have said it. You know what? I believed her and never had another second thought.

So that is the short and long of it. My life imaginary and Real have met at that sweet spot at 42.

Thank you for reading

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8 years ago

Toban

Veteran

Beautiful post. Thank you for sharing!

Janet

(website)

*applause*

I love your fearless style and attitude! Thank you for sharing all this. It's wonderful having you on this forum, Ledonna!

Mochi

YES.

Transcona Shannon

Brilliant in every way!

Anonymous

You are so inspiring and fab Ledonna! Brilliant post. Love it.

Jaime

You are simply sensational. And I mean that sincerely!

El Cee

Yay Ledonna!!! Great post. I love your bold, brave style. It shows your passion and zest for life.

Ledonna N.

Mochi,Toban,Transcontinental S. Thank you.

Janet it took me years to get here but, I believe in bringing the fullness of me to the table. As my creator accepts all of me I can do no less than accept the fullness of self.

Diane G, Shevia, El Cee thank you so much we are all FAB.

This is so heartfelt and real. Very inspirational to all of us who struggle with fitting in , or feeling like we haven't quite figured out what our reality is for dressing. Thank you for posting this.

Angie

Fashion Stylist

Thanks for sharing your touching story, Ledonna.

Sometimes, it feels like our world is ending until we discover the silver lining. You discovered yours and it's a gift that keeps on giving. Both to you, and your audience. YLF forms part of your style audience, and we thoroughly enjoy your style and style musings. I hope you can not only feel our acceptance, but also our affection. Rock on.

Adelfa

Ledonna, your journey inspires me to press on toward the prize.

Suz

Ledonna, your courage, verve, and imagination give you amazing personal style. No one will ever mistake you for anyone else; you are your own woman and an inspiration to us all. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

Ledonna I think you can put the imaginary to the real you are fantastic

Summer

Such an inspirational post, Ledonna. Good for you for turning your life around so brilliantly.

RobinF

Wow, great post. You are an inspiration to us all.

Maneera

Ledonna...you're fearless and inspiring. I love this story! Thanks for sharing Kuddos to you!

Tanya

Such a beautiful and touching post, thank you for sharing. You are an inspiration!

Barbara Diane

Wonderful to see where you are. Thanks for sharing so much of you here on the forum.

I'm working on finding me-got lost in motherhood and being a wife. Both of which I love, but somehow I got confused and thought I was supposed to please everyone else. I've forgotten how to know what I want. No one's responsibility but my own-they didn't ask me to do that.

I think I'm going to say I'm a work in progress. Which I think we all are.

Chris987

What an inspiration....you are so brave and so honest. It takes a LOT to be the type of person you are....we are lucky to have you as a member of YLF.

Muffin

Love this!!!

RoseandJoan

Such a powerful and positive message; from compromise to purpose.

Thank you for sharing your story xo

Wow thank you for all the wonderful feedback.

I think that individuals tend to loose themselves inside of the we (couples) and or children. I think for us to fully realize who we are we need to do selfcare and honor who we are by checking on constantly with self.

I started to surround myself online and in real life with those who were positive and proud of who they were from the inside out. I starlet to accept that I was colorful do vivid and that was okay as much as I was quite and had to hibernate away from people from time to time.

I'm no better or worse than anyone else just a fellow traveler on this fashion journey.

UmmLila (Lisa)

Your fashion sense is so fearless, Ledonna, and I admire your dedication to positive thinking.

jill58

As others have said, you are an inspiration. I am so glad you are on this forum. Your honesty and determination to be yourself as well as the joy that you bring to dressing is amazing.

Cococat

I love this post.

Aida

Can't imagine you as anything other than the vibrant, energetic, and positive woman that you are. Glad that you've finally come to that place

Jjsloane

What a great spirit and style you have! We are all on a journey together and rediscovering things about ourselves our style and and that of others. This is the most positive place and one of the things I like most is the diversity of styles. You will not find a more genuine person than Angie. I see people dressed essentially the same all the time, it's refreshing to see other styles and draw inspiration.

I am definitely someone who tends to lose herself.
Thank you for posting this Ledonna. It was interesting hear about your life and how you picked yourself up after a breakup and blossomed! You most definitely have a "joie de vivre" that gushes through in your pictures and outfits.

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