BTW Lisa isn't this it? At Nordies.... I know I think I paid $195 years ago but not sure any more

Oh no!
I think you should get another one right away. If the first one shows up it's a bonus: you have a backup. When something you really love gets ruined or lost, I think the best thing to do is fix it or replace it right away and move on.

As for where to get it, Shevia makes good points for Ebay. I have bought a couple of things from there and have been 100% satisfied.

Oh no!

I can relate, as there are several clothing items that I miss. Long stories for each explain that it would not have been possible to replace them, but it has been years and they still pop into my mind sometimes.

Otoh, i have the dishes I remember eating from at my grandma’s house growing up. I also have the Mikasa dishes I got for my wedding. I prefer Grandma’s dishes. When one dropped a few years ago, I actually cried. A few others broke, and then I found Replacements, which sells used dishes, utensils, etc. I filled out the set and now am happy to use it every day. I couldn’t tell you which pieces are from her and which we purchased secondhand.

Of course, you’d always know the “new” scarf had a previous existence, but since you wore it so often, my money is on you popping this one into that spot and wearing it happily.

gryffin - yes, I think that is it. It looks much different photographed that way - and I had to hunt for the signature, but finally noticed it. It's almost 400$ Cdn. I don't know if I can do it.

anna - thanks for these options - I don't know a few of them, and appreciate now knowing where to find designer pieces at a better price.

I thought about this all night, and I think I'm going to sit on it for a while. Thank you all for chiming in with your thoughts - as usual, you're a smart and insightful bunch

I'm not sure if I've ever felt that way about an item of clothing, but if I did, I suppose I would give myself a little more time to see if I could find it since you mentioned you already have worn it this season. And it's expensive. I have found items that were under another item on a hanger before - usually because I was "making" an outfit and left it that way, then forgot.

Oh man, Lisa, my heart is racing just thinking about this. As I've started to upgrade my wardrobe a bit, this is a huge fear of mine, especially for items like scarves. I'm terrified of losing my EF poncho, and I thought I had once, so I know exactly what you're feeling.

I would give it a couple weeks. This is an iconic piece and it will be around on resale and designer markets. If you do re-buy, I would skip eBay and use a fashion-designated resale site like Anna's suggestion.

I’m so sorry, and yes, I understand totally, thinking how wrecked I would be to lose a similarly iconic item.

I like Anna’s idea of buying yourself a new one in a slightly different colorway (but only if it speaks to you as much as the original!). Your first one may yet turn up. From personal experience, I say check the laundry room in case it got mixed in with laundry and fell behind something, and in your husband’s stuff. I’ve found some of my lost things stuffed between Jamie’s folded sweaters, etc.

Ah, this is so heartbreaking! I vote for buying a new one - pricey, sure, but this is your signature piece! And you know you’ll wear it for ages, if not always. If the old one turns up, now you have a back-up to ease any concern about future loss or damage. . .

I also vote for replacing it -- and I like the idea of a slightly different color if you can find one you love as much, just in case the original turns up.

And yes, I can totally relate. I had a purple winter coat that I LOVED and two years ago I left it somewhere and it never found its way home. I've bought at least 2-3 coats since then, trying to replace it, and never found one I loved as much. If I could have replaced the exact item I would totally have done it.

Oh, so sorry.
My kids almost never went to after school care. I found my raincoat there many months later. Any out of the box places you can check?

So sorry about that, I hope you will find it, maybe when you are not looking for it.

If you do go the ebay route, you can always ask for more pictures to help you authenticate. There are some tips online. if you google "authenticate mcqueen scarf."

Oh, sh*t! I'm so sorry. I lost a leather glove on Sunday and have been tormented by it.....and it was nowhere near the value of your scarf....so I know that you must be so upset.

Have you looked online at https://www.saksfifthavenue.com. I'm suggesting them because all orders to Canada ship free and without duty. And prices are what we pay here.....not adjusted US prices. I've ordered things as insignificant as a pair of underwear because it's so easy.

Edited to add.....If you do order from Saks check out as a guest. Don't make an account.

I had never bought used online, until last year....my all time fave Kate Spade bag (red leather and perfect) was wearing out....Just on a lark, I looked on ebay...and there it was. I looked it over very carefully, and thought about it, and decided...and when it came it was indeed just exactly MY handbag, without the wear..... The seller sent me her direct address to communicate, and I told her how much it meant to me to get it. It turned out she had bought it a number of years ago, and never used it. She said "I think I was just holding it until you needed it" ! I agreed.....
Lisa, if you love that scarf you should replace it. I have not regretted replacing that bag once, and I get twice as much pleasure from the current one because of the story behind it.

Empathy and commiseration from me Lisa. I'd be inclined to replace it exactly because it's such a signature piece, but I have to say the olive sounds pretty intriguing. Hope you are able to come up with a good solution!

Lisa, so sad for you -- this is a really treasured companion object, a signature piece.

I am with those who say, wait for a few days...since you said you have already worn it this winter, it might yet turn up.

But if it doesn't, I would absolutely splurge and replace it. Signature items are not everyday purchases and you truly love this. Of course you can shop around for the best price, but don't deprive yourself of something that makes you feel "you" unless there is no other choice. And hugs!!

Lisa, I would also buy new in this case. Although I've bought and sold hundreds of items on ebay with barely a hitch, there are a variety of reasons why I think (after thoroughly ransacking your house) you should simply bite the bullet and replace the scarf via Saks Fifth Avenue or some other reputable department store. If the old one shows up you can always sell the new one. As Suz said, this is a "signature item" that is central to your wardrobe.

Lisa - sorry to chime in again but I've been thinking about this and I wanted to share one last thought. I have several of the mcq silk chiffon scarfs. I thought long and hard about dropping that cash. But the bottom line is great silk chiffon is almost impossible to find. His scarfs are lighter than air, never hot, drape magnificently. I could not find the quality and tactile experience at any price point. There is just nothing out there quite like them. If your scarf does not turn up, and I really hope it does, nothing else will ever be quite right. It's a buy better, buy less thing. It will hurt to shell out that much cash a second time, but if it does not reappear I'd give it some thought. Hugs and beaming hopes for its recovery.

Thanks gryffin. I know you're right. I'll leave it until after Christmas and see how my cash flow is - and likely order it in January. I'd love to have it with me for an important work trip at the end of that month.

I understand that it was a signature piece, really was “you” when you started wearing it, and you’ve grown accustomed to it. If you are going to buy a replacement though, this would be a good time to consider if it still is the best signature piece for you, or if you want something more square or colorful or muted or long or whatever.

Oh, Lisa, I went through the same thing recently! Mine was a white silk/cotton Acne scarf printed with an antique map of Scandinavia that I adored and wore with everything. I searched everywhere with no luck, and was tempted to order another (there was just one left, the same but with a pale blue background instead of white) but it was a pricey duplicate, even on sale, so I hesitated. Then one day I tossed on a rarely worn raincoat, felt in the pocket, and there it was. I washed it, thought it had become a bit faded, and decided to give it a quick dye bath of light blue--giving me my old scarf and a new one, too. I wish you the same luck!

Oh, how sad! I haven't lost any beloved items, but a friend of mine lost a Burberry scarf once. It was her pride and joy. She was crushed.

I sure hope that it turns up. If you decide to order another one, I would get the same color, and if the original shows up after the fact, you can sell the duplicate online.

Fingers crossed that the original turns up! Though that olive version is lovely and intriguing... I think it it were me, I'd lean towards stalking secondhand via Vestiare, RealReal, etc.

Another thought: Do you and your husband exchange gifts? This would make a very fine Christmas present. My husband always appreciates suggestions.

JA - if my husband had even a whiff of an idea as to how much I paid for this scarf, let's just say there would be no more husband. Some things are better left unsaid. It was a gift from me to me on my 45th bday.

Personally, I would buy new again. Even if you then find the original, I find it useful to have two copies in case one is in the wash etc. Plus, it'll help you avoid this situation in the future!

So sorry for your loss.

It may yet turn up. I thought I'd accidentally donated a pair of favourite trippen sandals and was mighty relieved to find them at the back of the closet where I was sure I'd looked at least four times.

I'm with fashiontern on this. Now could be a good moment to consider a new signature item while you wait for a replacement to cross your path. (I was on the point of offering you mine, but it's wool, and blue on white, so more sugar skull than gothic.)

Hmm, thanks all for chiming in here. I'm so connected to this scarf, and can't conceive of finding something else that will make that kind of statement. But - sometimes these things just cross our paths. I'm sitting on it for now , until the the right course of action comes to me:)

LisaP: I didn;t read any of the above comments. Just thought I'd check this thread. My reaction is: wow, has a worldly item become that important that we grieve over it when it's gone? Sorry but that's my feeling on it. Initially. I can't imagine one item having that much impact on a person. But I have so many beloved and treasured handbags, I honestly don't know which ones I'd take in a fire, here raging in CA, where I live. So no judgment here. I wish I DID know which possessions I absolutely loved, but I don't. I have SO much stuff Lisa, and so many beautiful clothes and handbags, and scarves and jewelry, it's appalling, and I don't even know which ones I treasure! Overload. I don;t even KNOW what I treasure anymore. I don't even know what I'd take in a fire! I'm sorry to admit this, but it's the truth. My closet is like a store! At least you treasured that scarf. That's a good and precious and beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing

I don;t know about you all, but I don;t want to be attached to clothes, I don't want to fear a handbag being lost, I've had to pray about this, and I still pray about this. Lord let me not be attached to things of this world. Things of this world are fleeting. Things of Christ matter, like our marriages, our kids, our eternal salvation. It's a constant struggle with me, don;t know about any of you, but it's a constant struggle with me, being attracted to things of this world, like clothes and fashion, then things of God too, being a practicing Catholic. Please share anyone if you can relate. xo

Oh goodness! Mourning with you!

I haven't read all of the comments, but I'm wondering if you really should replace it. Clearly it was very special to you. Perhaps even if you found the same exact scarf, it might not feel the same (emotionally.) Just a thought.