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ironkurtin

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After spending a long part of dinner with the collar of my jacket turned into my neck - and none of the four style-conscious adults at the table saying *anything* (!!!) - I hereby declare it good manners to sweetly and discreetly inform another fab femme:

- If her collar is popped strangely
- If her tags are showing
- If she's missing an earring
- If she has a spot on her face, teeth, or clothing
- If she has toilet paper on any part of her body
- If she's tucked her pants or skirt oddly after the bathroom or just through an evil whim of fate

And if you know her well enough:
- If her hair has a weird floopy over her ears or "ther'es-something-about-Mary" spike
- If her underwear is peeking out, top or bottom

Am I missing anything *you'd* like to know about, if it happened to you?

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Latest reply was from mrseccentric

modgrl

(website)

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Yes please tell me if I have dog hair on my boob, just please don't try to take care of it for me.

Sona

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I totally agree. I especially hate it when I have lost a earring or have a huge glob of spinach when there should be none and no one says a word.
Someone once had the gall to tell me she thought my single pearl stud was a style statement!
Yes, my other moniker is the one style ketchup splotched doc!!

Anonymous

If she has mis-matched earrings:)
If she has crotch-fitting problems and she's about to buy a too-tight pair of pants/jeans
If she has a visible bra-strap ( and not the cute kind)

Parsley

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Modgrl, are you saying that as a result of personal experience?

rae

(website)

Veteran

Amen! It's just "good looking out" for each other when we do this. Please also tell me if:

- If there is a run in my hose (hate that!)
- I've spilled cocoa/food/white out on myself (I'm a Sag. I'm clumsy.)
- My lipstick/gloss is wearing off in that weird, uneven, crumbly way (eew.)

Janet

(website)

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Agreed!

I did once compliment a woman I worked with on her mismatched earrings -- it was years ago, and they *did* look cool together. They went, they just didn't match.

Funny, I just re-watched the episode of Mad Men in which Peggy gives a presentation to a couple of clients, and only after it's all over does one of her colleagues tell her she has lipstick all over her teeth.

HelenInCanada

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Ooh, slightly embarassing. Maybe they thought it would be rude to point it out! Ha, very unhelpful. But yes, it should be done in private, or discreetly.

Other things to watch out for: dryer sheet sticking to a piece of clothing; those awkward "straps for hangers" falling outside of tops (I usually cut mine off), and dangling threads.

Amy

(website)

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I agree! I unwittingly had baby spit-up on my suit jacket once (many years ago) and was grateful to my co-worker for pointing it out to me.

Elly

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The fly is undone-- one of my pair of jeans has a pink ribbon on the inside of the fly, which makes this particularly obvious and embarrassing.

One of your pant legs is caught up funny and you look like a teenager hip-hop lover or someone who has been riding a bike.

Your shirt has come unbuttoned and you are flashing people-- and or you missed a button or miss-buttoned.

It is apparent you put your clothing on inside out or backwards (not the Angie type of backwards)

There are underwear that were static-clinged to your pants in the dryer now coming out of the bottom of your pants legs.

Your slip is hanging out the bottom of a skirt or dress.

Your shoes are on the wrong feet (no kidding-- I've seen two adult women manage this one).

You have a wild section of the eyebrow that is sticking straight up and making your otherwise neat eyebrows look like burt from sesame street.

Boogers. 'nuff said.

Aziraphale

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What about mole hairs? Once in a while I'll get a huge white one sprouting from the mole on my jaw. It seems to materialize from nothing overnight. I hate it when I've been walking around all day with an inch-long witch hair sprouting from my face!

Sara L.

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I highly agree with this! I'm more embarrassed to realize I looked goofy for hours than when someone says something. I would prefer people try to be discreet though - catch my eye and then make a small hand motion or catch me when no one else is around. World's most embarrassing moment was when I was wearing a shiny, slippery tank to a wedding and had a nip slip. Luckily an older lady came rushing up to me to fix my strap (when neither of the people I was talking to had said anything). Needless to say, I was mortified but so grateful to that women.

ironkurtin

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Oh my god, Elly, you have seen or experienced mystery underpants slipping out from pants legs?!

Claudia

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Amy, I once attended most of a professional trade conference with a long, large streak of baby spit-up all down the back of my black blazer. Must of happened when I hugged my daughter good bye for the day, LOL. About mid-afternoon someone there finally asked me about it.

soobee

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I pulled aside another mum (mom) from school pick up to let her know her shirt was (strikingly obviously) inside out. She made a mad dash for the kids loos to fix it. I wonder why nobody else told her?

catgirl

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Agree. Just don't lick your finger and try to smooth my eyebrow. As has happened to me.

Elly's list covered it for me.

A co-worker from an old job once sat through a meeting with her supervisor, not realizing she had bird poop on her head.

Queen Mum

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I always appreciate knowing that I have a price tag hanging out the back of my neck.

MNsara

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I JUST went upstairs after hosting my son's 17th B-day party, and in my bathroom noticed I had fudge frosting on my right breast!

Granted this was a super casual affair where I frosted the cake while everyone sat digesting between dinner and dessert, but really -- someone must have noticed! and these are FAMILY! they should have my back (AND my front!)!

Anonymous

Chuckling all through this thread, I've got one new to me this year. Did you know that old people don't always know when their nose is running? Please tell me if you see a drip!
And let me know if a makeup brush has left a big black hair on my face.

Patty

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I have a relative that is real good at telling you you're little out of sorts--in a don't worry I see EVERYTHING and I will take care of you in a crowded room or not--preferably in a crowded room--kind of way.
By the time I get home I feel totally picked over and dysfunctional. Oh great here comes Christmas holidays.

lyn*

(website)

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Those transparent size stickers for shirts that ALWAYS sit on my boob.

The comment, "Yeah, you are an XS." is not helpful.

AJ

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Oh these comments are just too funny!

Do you do anything if a teacher walks by wearing a sweater dress and it clings in such a way that it is very obvious that she is wearing a thong? She was probably trying to avoid VPL. I guess if she wore a slip this might be less noticeable?

RandomThoughts (Andrea)

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Oh, Elly, yes, the open fly...

I was in a big dog show this summer and my fly was open. I have photos to prove it which have been posted on the Internet!

A friend of a friend noticed but didn't tell me before I went in.

Michelle

(website)

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This thread is killing me!! Una, you cannot be sesrious about the eybrow thing? Please tell me it was abad dream?
I am grateful for each and every one of these flags, and also appreciate accidental clevage warnings. I have recruited a friend at the office for this very purpose and dubbed her the human mirror.

rosee

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I tend to discretely pull people aside and SAY SOMETHING -- sadly the favor is not often returned.

Transcona Shannon

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These are pretty funny! Mine are:

- if I have lipstick on my teeth
- my fly is undone
- I have a Bounce/Downy sheet stuck to any part of my clothing
- my blouse is mis-buttoned
- I'm wearing two different shoes (yes...I did this once)

mrseccentric

(website)

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Oh for heaven's sake! Miss Manners put it best. If it's something that the person can fix then and there, or with a bit of effort, TELL THEM!!

Sara L. this made me laugh: "I would prefer people try to be discreet though - catch my eye and then make a small hand motion..... " it's entirely possible to be TOO discreet. My mom and a friend of mine have both tried to let me know something's wrong with just that method.

Me: "what?" Them: (same hand motion) Me: "i, uh - what?" Them: (same hand motion, a little more vigorous) Me: "what in the world is up?" in full throated voice. Them (sotto voce, thru clenched teeth): "well, i was trying to let you know you have a piece of string on your blouse....."

funny thread!! steph