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Jenn

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I have a hair appointment on Saturday…my first one since moving to California! It’s been almost two years.

My hair is too long, too heavy, and too damaged right now for a subtle change, but I also don’t want to go back to a bob or bangs.

This is the photo I saved on my phone when I planned to get my hair cut back in March 2020, but I think her hair might be thinner than mine, so results would vary. Anyone have any better suggestions?

(I won’t repost all the pics I put in Irina’s thread, but if you want to peek, that’s a pretty good history of my hair over the last five years)

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Synne

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Noooooo!

Synne

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Edit: didn't read the damaged part. Ok, I understand. But your hair looks so good now! In pics at least. How about trying new hair oils or treatments?

Jenn

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Synne, it’s mostly split ends that need to be cut off. The bottom four inches or so literally breaks off if I comb it.

Jonesy

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I like that inspiration cut, if your hairdresser can translate that for your thick, curly hair, e.g., I think for straight hair, layers can be "piece-y" or chunky, but for thick, curly hair this doesn't work--you can get a shelf-like or blocky look (at least that's what has happened to me on several unfortunate occasions!). I think layers are definitely the way to go, just a matter of how many, where they start, how you want the layers around your face, etc. Maybe Carla will show up to this thread with some inspiration pics!

Jenn

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Exactly, Jonesy! I think sometimes I don’t have a handle on my actual curliness level. Somewhere between these two, maybe? #1 seems like the cut I think would be great, but the layers are too short and go all HOA lady with my wave pattern. Probably closer to Shakira curls when I’m careful about curly girl methods.

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Janet

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I like that inspiration cut a lot, and yes, it would have a bit different texture on you, with probably a bit more volume. Agreed with Jonesy -- layers can work really well to make your hair more manageable and give it more movement (mine also gets blocky and triangle shaped when it's all one length).

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Runcarla

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Ha! Look at what I found for you! (#2 the cut, but not he colour)

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Jenn

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I really like that #1 from Janet. And too funny, Carla! We’re thinking along the same lines. Also found this on Pinterest. I’m having a hard time telling the difference between natural waves and straight hair that’s been coaxed. I am lazy and never going to heat style my hair, so any cut really has to work with how it air dries on its own.

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RoseandJoan

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Okay you said no bangs but I happened to have this pic saved on my Pinterest board.

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Jenn

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I love that look Rose and Joan, but when I had bangs, I had to straighten them every day or they’d poof into a weird
wavy, feathery mess. I can’t commit to that level of maintenance again.

Minaminu

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You have beautiful hair, shame about the split ends! I really like RunCarla suggestions and think they could work very well for you!

RoseandJoan

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It sounds like it will just be a matter of getting the layers right.

I never learn Jenn, I say never again with certain hairstyles but keep going back.

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chewyspaghetti

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I don't know- but I'm looking forward to seeing what you end up with!
I have a hair appointment on Sunday, but Iam just getting my regular shag cleaned up.

Style Fan

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I like your inspirations. I am not familiar with curly hair, but I am a low-maintenance type.

LaPed

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Looking at your photos in Irina’s post, it does strike me that the lob length was a bit too conservative for your style. Because you have a minimalist approach to dressing with just a dash of artsy, you can let your hair be your statement piece. Also, you’re quite tall (or at least present as such), so I think you can rock a lot of length and volume without it seeming to overwhelm you. I’d probably show the hair dresser your inspo pics and ask them to keep as much length as possible and lighten up the volume on the back and sides. Do you find that the weight of longer hair has a straightening effect and you gain some curl when you take off length, or is your texture pretty consistent regardless of length?

Stagiaire Fash

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Rose&Jen, whose head is that the back of? I’ve been so tempted lately to get a chop—that pic might just push me over the edge.

RoseandJoan

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Sorry Fashintern it was a random pic on Pinterest and I was unable to find any other angles.

Jenn

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La Ped, my hair is naturally straight at the roots so longer=more curl. I should probably try clipping the roots while it dries, but it’ll still flatten out by day two or three, pretty much at any length.

Firecracker (Sharan)

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Jenn, how exciting that you are going to get a cut. While I have loved the look of your hair in recent WIWs, it sounds like you will look even more gorgeous with the ends trimmed off and some heaviness that you are feeling removed.

I think the photo you posted in response to Janet is perhaps more like your hair than the photo in your original post. I agree with you that the original one looks thinner than your hair looks. If you go in with a few of these inspiration photos, I hope your stylist will be able to tell what will work with your hair. I can envision something like the last one you posted and like the second one in Janet's group. I think a lot of these pics are probably more beach-wave than what your hair might do if you aren't styling it. From your photos (you might show your hair history photos to the stylist, too!), I imagine your hair will do loose, defined curls with the right product and air- or diffuser-drying. (FWIW, I never got my hair to do beachy waves. Mine is too curly, but not curly enough for a tight curly look. I have fine hair, medium-thick, and mine gets more curl with more length and more humidity.)

ophelia

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Do what makes you happy, but in my opinion you have beautiful hair. If it were mine, I’d do a trim to cut off the damage & possibly long layers. I love long hair though!

I also had to cut off damage & was sad to lose a lot of length, but by layering I was able to target the most damaged areas.

I’m so pleased to see that straight-ironed hair is not the only look out there these days (I have “Shakira hair but frizzier” which seems to have last trended in the 80’s). Straightening is beyond my skill set.

Sal

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Oh exciting times!! You have fab hair that is a statement that seems to work with your style and persona. Definitely play to that rather than go down the suburban home owner association look.....

It is funny what our own associations are - for me living where I do there are one or two looks I totally avoid for similar reasons but I am not sure that they are universal.....and in themselves they look wonderful - but en masse they form a "tribe" that I don't see myself being part of...

Jaime

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I will just wait patiently for the results since I am unqualified to add advice .

Angie

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Lots of great advice and ideas! Excited to see the results:)

JAileen

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In your recent post of your outfits, I thought what beautiful hair! Mine is stick straight, so I can’t offer any useful advice.

Sally

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Your hair is stunning. My best friend had hair like yours and she definitely had to keep the length or it would change shape. I also have straight hair so am not an expert.

@Sal I can't imagine what the hairstyles are that have associations with them in NZ except perhaps the mullet. Where I live the most popular hair style would be long and maybe in a bun, with a large majority of the population wearing a sari or salwar kameez.

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Apparently mullets are trending again Saw it when I was looking up 2021 hairstyles.
These look great, but hope you don't cut off too much! Despite 15 months w/o a cut, my hair is still only just a couple inches past shoulder length :/

RobinF

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Such pretty inspo pics! I'm with you on bangs, I had the same problem and swore never again (although I am tempted sometimes, they can be so cute). I vote for trimming the bottom and some long layers.

Bijou

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Jenn, you have the most beautiful hair and I like it best when you wear it long and in beach waves. I cannot imagine your hair could look anything but gorgeous. I hope you get a style that feels right for you and please don’t go too short.

rachylou

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I’m thinking this is called a shag, and that if your hair is straight and heavy, it may come out more like this... which is still cute and beach...

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