I'm very late here but wanted to chime in: I am so sorry to hear about your parents--what a difficult, stressful situation, for them and for you!
Re. the boots, I'm going to be a spanner (as Angie would say :): I would go with your first instinct and get the chocolate brown! I think they would be splendid with your black print dresses and all of your gorgeous denim. Not sure why, but the mushroom doesn't seem like you, for some reason (can't quite articulate why). I do love the black boots on you too, I think because the bookending with your hair is so effective and visually cohesive.