@Bennett, my "just-got-out-of-bed" look is not alluring. pillow creases, hair sticking out every which way, sleep still in the eye corners.

What an interesting conversation. When I feel alluring it is with good grooming and a form fitting dress or outfit that shows my female form. It's that simple for me.

But sometimes I like a look that makes me feel more bold and not as alluring. Something that gives me confidence will often trump alluring.

bj1111, your comment made me laugh, as it could be a description of me and many others ...