We all have different styles, but what I’m going to say, I think you can apply to any personal style.
Find your “alluring” icons. Who do you look at who takes your breath away? Make a Pinterest board of your icons and start dissecting the looks and identify the elements you like.
Mine are Dita Von Teese, Monica Bellucci, and every dame in every film noir story. My favorites: Kim Novak in her white coat/ black dress outfit in Vertigo. Jane Greer in a white dress and straw hat in Out Of The Past. Barbara Stanwyck’s beautiful mani/pedi in Double Indemnity. Rita Hayworth’s glorious mane in Gilda. Veronica Lake’s hairstyle with the swoop over one eye.
Breaking down my icons, I know I love a pencil skirt + fitted blouse or Wolford top, a safari dress, a camp shirt + tailored shorts with a 2-3 inch inseam, pretty shoes. Polished nails, winged eyeliner, wavy or curly hair. Outfit formulas, like Angie tells us.
Dita Von Teese wrote a great book on cultivating your own alluring personal style, called “Your Beauty Mark”
For me, it’s all about the big picture: my outfit, hair, makeup, and meticulous grooming. I perform publicly at least four times a week, either as a full show, or at open mics, and I have an actual style brand now - it’s a retro, alluring film-noir sort of vibe.
To get to that point, I always make sure:
My hair is deliberately styled, even if it’s a ponytail and headband on my way to yoga, or flyaway bedhead mop.
My nails are polished or buffed to a pretty shine.
I have lip color on, even if it’s sheer lip balm.
I always have small stud earrings in, unless I’m swimming.
My outfit fits my figure well, whether it’s dressy or casual.
My shoes are always clean and in good shape I don’t wear sneakers.
I also don’t wear cutoff denim shorts, or anything ripped, baggy or outsized.
I always have a dab of scent on my wrists, unless I’m headed to yoga.
My undergarments fit well, look pretty, and enhance my outfit’s appearance.
I think achieving ‘alluring’ is all about planning, and being in control, so that, no matter what strange or unexpected situation you step into... you yourself look cool and polished.
That’s my interpretation, anyway.
Haha, I wrote y’all a novella.