A expected, there is a lot of wisdom on the forum. I agree with Gaylene that it means more to me to have my husband's approval than anyone else's. That doesn't mean that I have to adjust all thee time. Yesterday was a social event, and then I think it is more important. I will gladly be wearing my purple skirt for work, out with other friends etc, or at home even if I know he doesn't like it that much. I have a very caring husband, and he would never say things about my looks to hurt me. On the contrary, he is always paying attention to how I look, even after all these years, and often gives me compliments, but I know he will never say it if he doesn't mean it. He also has very good taste, and I trust his judgement almost always. In this case, I think he just needs to adjust his eye

Such an interesting range of responses...and SO's!

Mr. Suz is most likely to express disapproval of anything that represents a new trend, especially if he doesn't see it fully styled. He won't understand it, and it will make him nervous, and he'll make unhappy faces while I'm trying it on, and sometimes comment negatively, too.

Then again, it can work the opposite way as well. Sometimes I'll put on a supposedly man-repelling item (like my first BF jeans) and he will fall all over himself with joy -- even before it is styled!

In other words, he keeps me guessing with his opinions.

Typically, if he doesn't like it, and I do, I will just work on styling it -- and after a wear or two it will become his favourite item in my wardrobe.

Interestingly in relation to your outfit, one item that he's consistently been negative about is my full bronze leaf-print skirt with asymmetrical pleating. I love this skirt and think it is super fab. He thinks it's dumb. I rarely wear it anyway, but I do wear it in his company sometimes. Ordinarily only for events that are not focused on us as a couple if that makes any sense. More for appearances I make or writing related engagements.

I don't know. Maybe full skirts are just man repelling to our men? I'm not sure!

The only time I think my husband would say something about my clothing choices is if I walked out of the house naked.

My DH has a good eye for silhouette and proportion, and flattering colors. But he doesn't really keep up with the trends in women's clothes, so if he's not a fan of something it tends to be a newer trend that's not so traditionally flattering. On the rare occasion he buys me clothes, they are spot on my taste.

I value his feedback on my outfits, but he doesn't really like having to give it all the time so I just take it gracefully when it comes. It wouldn't stop me from wearing something I really loved and that he hated, or vice versa - I wouldn't say we have veto power on each others' clothes, that's a little too controlling for me.

I thought about this some more. Ingunn, why does your husband think the purple skirt is frumpy? Is it because it's full? Do you have any other full skirts? How does he feel about those? Or is it the colour?

I thought of another example where my husband didn't like my choice. I had this awesome pair of bejewelled wedge sandals, although I wore them a lot and they died this summer. Anyway, my honey thought they were "old lady on a cruise" footwear. He never warmed up to them in the two years I had them. I wore them anyway because (a) I disagreed with him, and (b) they were my only non-flip-flop sandals, there are lots of places you can't wear flip flops, and my only other option was closed-toe shoes and sweaty feet. (I now have a wardrobe hole for versatile sandals!).

Anyway, my husband was quite clear about why he didn't like my sandals. He thought they were frumpy because of both the beading and the wedge heel. (Men are not fans of wedges, it seems). I can respect his point of view if he has reasons. Doesn't mean I have to agree. My point is, perhaps your husband can give you good reasons why he doesn't like the purple skirt. I'm sorry he didn't, because I thought it was cute, by the way.

He gives me so many compliments that I do respect him when he doesn't like something. He works 6 days a week, which leaves plenty of time for me to wear things he isn't as fond of, like my black and white oxfords that he calls costume shoes... added recent oufit in case you missed it.

I buy most of his clothes since he only purchases football and baseball gear for himself. Since he humors me and takes a lot of my advice it makes since that he should have some input in what i wear on date nights or hanging out with our friends.

It happens over so few things that it really is easy to just accept the differences when they do occur.

My husband and I have extremely different taste in clothes. He's very conservative and doesn't really experiment too much with his style - unless it's something I've purchased for him.

He does however understand my desire to experiment and try new things and even if he doesn't "get it" won't really say anything although I can tell sometimes by THE LOOK. However if he has a really visceral reaction to something, he will definitely say something. For example I had a tee shirt one time that was a light cream colour and had a stripe of black lace that went down the centre. The first (and only) time I ever wore it he promptly blurted out "that's hideous"…'nuff said. I never wore it again.

He does give sweet compliments when he likes something though so it all balances out.

I love my husband and I respect his opinion on a lot of things, but fashion is just not his area, and he doesn't have to understand it for me to enjoy it. It is true that when he dislikes an outfit I feel bad, and I value his praise when I get it.

I guess there are advantages to being single.

Lol Anna! And to Gaylene's comment - I think if you are sartorially opposite of your SO things are different than if you tend to fall in line on the conservative vs. outlandish or edgy scale. If you are dating a punk and wear very conservative things, it might not go over so well. But then if you are both typical middle America types and wear conventionally accepted styles there is less likely to be a WTF are you wearing moment I would think.

Hmmm. I generally don't ask unless it is whether I should keep something I just bought that I'm wavering on, and he never spontaneously offers one way or another. DD is the one who will give me the thumbs down. I, OTOH, told him he needed to change because he wanted to go to an even with me while wearing a raggedy cheap T, baggy old jeans, and ugly athletic shoes, and I knew he could do better since I bought him three nice pairs of jeans a few months ago that turned into four after he wore a pair I was going to return. He changed the T and kept the rest which made it marginally okay. Mostly, he looks presentable when we go out since I don't go with him to the gym.

I think DH mostly keeps his negative opinions to himself. My funky Fly London sandals are probably a man repeller style, but they are comfy for hours and long distances. I think if they made me whine and become super high maintenance I would get flack about them.

Just popping back in here after I've had a chance to read some of the other comments. I think my willingness to accept my husband's opinion is because he'd never, in a thousand years, even think of telling me not to wear something, no matter how much he disliked it. His intentions are truly to be helpful, sort of the equivalent of letting me know I have something stuck in my tooth before I leave the house. He is far more likely to be complimentary even to the point where I have to work really hard most times to get him to admit to his feelings. He actually pushes me to be more adventurous because he knows that I don't always want to play it safe with my outfits.

I take a dubious view of any man telling the woman in his life she can't wear something. Uh, honey, yes I can, just watch me would be my response, just before I walked out the door, slamming it in his face.

My husband rarely disapproves of my outfits. We do have an ongoing disagreement about semi-tucking, though, which I continue to do even though he thinks it looks weird and insists no one else does it!

This morning, though, I put on a long-sleeve button-down denim shirt with a fairly full a-line skirt. He thought the skirt made my hips look big, rather than just accentuating my waist. I didn't totally see it his way, but I changed the skirt for black ponte skinnies tucked into my cowboy boots, and added a fun necklace. Cute and comfortable.

Next time I wear the skirt, I will probably wear it with my denim jacket. It was too warm for the jacket today. I've worn it that way before, and dh likes it. So no biggie.

I usually do listen to my husband and make a change if there's time. I have lots of choices now, thanks to YLF. Plus I can always wear the skirt and shirt to rehearsal tomorrow night.

I also love IK's first response. In truth I have noticed that if DH expresses disapproval in the end I am likely to stop wearing that item or combination (after defiantly wearing it as planned most of the time). That is unless I wear it and love it. DH doesn't know much about fashion but he has a great eye for color and graphic design and, after all, if I may paraphrase what Gaylene says, why shouldn't I take his opinion seriously?