So I *think* I found a solution for hot flashes that works for me and apparently some other women so I thought I'd share FWIW.
I took a multi-pronged approach after researching on a lot of web sites. And so far, so good -- after 4 days on this "regimen" I can sleep through the night again and not have a problem during the day. The first few days I had fewer flashes but still had them. The fourth day no flashes.
First, I gave up my beloved red at night and that seemed to help but not completely fix the problem (at least not in my impatient, sleepless state of mind). SO, I started taking 1-2 TBS of organic apple cider vinegar in a small glass of water 2 times a day. It doesn't taste so good, but it seems to help a lot of things according to many health oriented web sites and I just try not to smell it when I'm drinking and follow up with PLENTY of water. Something about the apple cider vinegar alkalyzing your body. I bought Braggs but other brands are probably okay too.
Anyway, in addiiton I take 2-4 milk thistle capsules (liver support), magnesium (400 mgs or more) and a few other vitamins (B12 methylcobalamin for me, vitamin E, C) AND I added Black Cohosh and Evening Primrose oil supplements.
I already drink plenty of water so I didn't need to change that. I am trying to get more exercise as I read it is important to heat up in this manner to help your body's blood flow and hormone flow.
Once I go for a couple of weeks in the clear I may try a glass of wine just to test. I miss my glass at dinner.
For me this is working pretty well. I hope it might help others!