How wonderful to see you! Love your soft hairstyle and smile.
No old man in sight! The layering is fun, but still simple and unfussy. The details such as dots and top stitching add some flair. If you still want a bit more feminine feel, you could open the neckline slightly and add a short necklace. Not at all necessary, and the look as is very modern -- but part of outfit creation is our own "happiness" factor. How do you feel when you wear this?
I tried on lots of jeans before I locked onto a look that works for me. To keep from dressing room exhaustion, I would shop only one store a day, and spread it out over a couple of weeks.
I don't know how tall you are, but don't forget the possibility of shopping the petite department. Also, sometimes I "preshop" on websites, noting the hem lengths and rises and checking for store availability.
Black denim or a dark wash would be wonderful.