Curly girl checking in! I wash every 3-5 days, depending on how much I crushed my curls while sleeping. I will use different products on non-wash days depending on that same criteria, how much my curls crushed (unfortunately, my thin/fine hair = easy to flatten). All of my products are light and sulfate free, so they take quite a while to build up. I am still looking for truly "soft" products that work well with my hair, but this system does give me mostly touchable hair with good movement.
Wash day - heat protectant, foaming mousse at roots, curl crème. Blow dry 2/3, air dry 1/3, then fluff and go.
Non-wash day 1 - curls are usually fine, so I will simply use a powder dry shampoo. Focus on the crown, leave it in while I shower (and use a shower cap!), then ruffle/shake out hair after shower and go.
Non-wash days 2-5 - if curls aren't crushed AND I haven't flattened out my volume, I do the dry shampoo thing again. Otherwise: foaming mousse at roots (to add volume back in), and light curl crème mixed with a little water which I'll scrunch into the curls (to redefine crushed curls). If I've really destroyed the volume while sleeping, I'll also spray in some texture product along the crown. Hair is less than half wet at this point. Quick blow dry halfway, focusing on getting lift at roots rather than forming curls (the curl crème handles most of that). Air dry the second half (takes care of curls), then fluff hair out. Finger tease any parts that need a little more lift, and if they REALLY need some lift I'll use some powdered wax for the finger-teased bits as well.
EDIT: Ok so I just remembered that this is what I do with short hair. With the longer hair it was very different! Wash every 2-3 days. On wash day, simply use curl crème and work it all in the air dry (NO blow dry); fluff and go. On non-wash days, I used a little of the dry shampoo but not much because it was such a pain to shake it out; often I'd do a light curl crème touch up and let it air dry but if it just didn't want to behave, up it went. By day 3, it was up in a pony for sure