Interesting comments, though I won't weigh in with an opinion as you will look fabulous no matter what you decide! I did ask my stylist what approach would be best were I to decide to go gray. She described it (not that I remember) but told me to ask her again in 30 years

It sounds as though you want to try it so go for it. For what it's worth, I found it very liberating to go gray and not be bound by the idea that you have to look young to look attractive.

I have read through all of the comments and this thread is so interesting. I think it would add another layer if each of us went back and analyzed why we feel the way we do about this subject. I have always wanted grey/white hair ever since I met a gal when I was in college at 17. She was 20 and had half black and half white hair and her sister who was 24 was already completely white. It was beautiful. I have just started getting white hair on the top of my head. But I know I will not be totally grey/white by the time I die because my grandmother had salt and pepper colored (mostly pepper) when she died at 80 and my mom still has mostly dark brown hair and she is 81. We always want what we cannot have. In the meantime, I will show anyone who will look, my white sideburns.

I have several women with grey hair saved to my inspiration file, and I don't object to grey hair on principal. We even have several fabbers who look amazing with grey hair. Yet I just can't encourage you to do it. It's really a personal hang-up on my part. I feel like there's this age where a lot of women feel pressure to cut their hair short and go grey because they're "too old" to have any other kind of hair style. As though you reach a certain age, and now you're this faceless, genderless being known as an "old person." I bridle at the idea of being told I have to do something because of my age. So I just want to yell, "No! Don't do it! Don't get 'old lady' hair! You can still have a personality!" I know it's irrational, but that's how I feel. I hope it makes any sense at all. I hope you do what makes YOU happy though. I know you'll look amazing either way.

I'd also like to point out that I don't see why the fact that something is natural should automatically be an argument in favor of that thing. I haven't seen my natural hair color since I was 15. You know why? I didn't like it. I have tattoos and I draw on my eyebrows every day, and I don't plan to change that any time soon either. I like the fact that I have the ability to mold my appearance into what I love, regardless of Mother Nature's intentions.

I wish I were brave enough to go gray. Maybe someday I will.

I started going gray early and started coloring my hair (naturally dark brown/black) after the birth of my first child when I was in my late 20s. I'm probably 80% gray now in my mid-40s and the maintenance is so time consuming that I think about giving up! But my husband looks so young and I just can't take that plunge yet. Maybe if I were blonde, the contrast would be less of a shock.

Suz, I have been going back and forth about what to say. I never really dyed my hair but for several years blended in the grey by having my hair (mostly medium brown) frosted a beige-blonde ( not yellow). This could last about 6 months . It was important to me that I have different tones in my hair, not flat color. At times later I used one of those semi-permanent color kits in a light cool brown or dark blonde. My grey hair took the color while that part that wasn't grey stayed a bit darker. For years my grey was more taupe than silver.
You might want to compromise and add a bit of blonde for awhile to gradually edge into it. I think you will be happiest when a greater percentage is white.
One thing you have going for you is that Mr Suz is already silver. Mr. Joy had almost no grey when I did and now we look more like we belong together.
On the other hand, it will be easy for you to do something else if you find that you are not yet the grey you want to be. So I say try it and see. If an appearance comes up, you could even things out with a temporary color that will be gone in less than 6 weeks. It fades out gradually. I can't wait to see what it looks like. Mr. Suz will come around when he sees that you are every bit as gorgeous and not turning into his mother.

OH! OH! OH! I'm so excited. I say yay!
And the reason I'm excited... I'm also growing out MY hair :). Something hit me mid summer, that I was just done. Root touch ups every 2 weeks... no more. I've been doing a ton of reading, on the how-to's, and the experiences, to see how others have done it and how it felt for them. It's been fascinating reading through ALL the comments on here, and seeing the perspectives of the YLF crowd. I actually had no idea there were so many with grey hair on here. The process is kinda yucky... I am doing it with help, and have got lowlights and a few highlights to help blend my skunk (my hair does NOT blend naturally!!!) but I'm excited to see where it's going. Much to my surprise, I'm getting nothing but compliments and encouragement from those around me. Oh, and yesterday somebody said they thought I was actually looking younger! I've also been told my eyes are really showing now, as they are being brought out by the silver and were a bit lost by the brown.

Enough about me :). I think you would totally rock grey hair... it sounds like you're ready, and you have such a sense of style, it would add to that (imho). I wouldn't worry about Mr. Suz... it's impossible to say how it will look until it's done, so having him guess at whether he'd like the change is impossible. And wrt your daughter, I'd take her opinion with a grain of salt as well. Daughters do not want their mothers to change, period. My daughters freaked out over me cutting 5 inches off my hair, but have said nothing about the colour. I have warned them, but I think I'd rather be a role model for them to be happy with my "authentic" self, than to be a victim to a multi billion dollar industry that says I must colour my hair. Cuz that's what it is (not that I don't think having the option is fantastic, I wish it was culturally more of a choice than the norm). Being the "old mother" was a concern of mine, as I'm already 8-10 years older than most of my kids friends mothers, but I decided that if I don't act old, or dress old, then I'm good.

You should check out http://w11.zetaboards.com/Cafe_Gray/index/ It's a forum for those going grey. This was totally eye opening for me, because what struck me when I came across it that NOT ONE woman on there (and they are all regular people, with all kinds of grey), looks older with their grey hair. If anything, they look younger, more vibrant. I think seeing that that was the straw for me.