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I have not posted for some time though I have been reading other people's posts and following Angie.

During lockdown, as for millions of others, the Internet proved a Godsend as I was able to keep in touch with my family and friends. Being on my own was, perhaps, for me easier to bear than for others as, since last year I have been on my own anyway. I have spent the time reading, writing, chatting on video, and looking after my demanding cat!

However because of my age I do resent the time wasted. I feel I cannot go on visits, travel on public transport, browse in shops, eat out often. As I was 90 in August I hope you will overlook the selfishness of these "losses". There are so many who are facing far worse problems in their lives.

What I have found is that little pleasures have attained much greater delight in my life. My new profile image is a photograph my daughter took when we were finally allowed to meet up. She drove me to a nearby trout-filled river and for a brief time we soaked up the sunshine and the beautiful scenery all around. The swan was a bonus!

These are surreal times. It seems almost too petty to worry over appearance and clothes. What really matters is being with family and friends; taking each day as it comes but making the most of it.
Greetings,my friends. Keep well. Keep safe.

3 years ago

Vildy

Veteran

You go, girl. Wonderful to see you back and a delightful story about your reunion outing with your daughter. And a great photo to go with it! It all shows how important the small time close-by and closeup events are - and surely what we love wearing is a part of that, too.

Jules

Lovely to see you doing well. As a middle aged person with a settled life, I do think this situation is hardest on the youngest and oldest, and your feelings around that are valid rather than selfish.

slim cat

Happy to hear that you are doing alright all things considered.
Great picture and smile .

Angie

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Fashion Stylist

You are an inspiration, Eirlys. Very happy to hear you're doing okay and prioritizing. Thanks for checking in, and for being wise and wonderful!

Eliza

Eirlys- your post made my day. How sad it would be to accommodate the demands of 2020 and not have anything you are missing. Even with much to be grateful for, the challenge seems to declare itself for all of us at some point.

Good to hear about your visit with your daughter, see your charming photo, and know you are able to be in touch with family and friends. All the best!

Laurie

Eirlys - you make a really valid point about the value of time. My Dad is a super active and youthful 90 like you (Mom 82) and I think this also must weigh on him. Thank you for the insight.

That said, of course you've found the silver lining because you have such an outstanding outlook on life!

We visited my parents last weekend, joined by 1 of my siblings. In an attempt to minimize our risks, I got tested less than a week before we went, we all ate and stayed outside 95% of the weekend, and did not touch or hug. No one spent the night in our folks' house. It was a particularly nice visit, after a summer that included heart surgery and another procedure for Dad. He always sends nice texts about how good it was to be together. This time he told my husband (but not me) that the visit had been very uplifting for him, psychologically.

It's a really delicate balance to preserve physical and emotional/mental health these days.

Stay wonderful!

Sal

Greetings right back Eirlys. You have such a wonderful attitude and I agree - those small things are what is making life meaningful right now. And yes at 90 you can mourn wasted time - that is very justified.

Great profile pic and thanks for sharing it.

Suz

Eirlys -- so wonderful to hear from you. I love that photo your daughter took. Your smile says everything!! These are indeed hard times for all, and your losses are not insignificant. I think it is important for all of us to recognize and honour what we miss as well as to hope that life can return to some semblance of normality sooner rather than later.

Sisi

Hello Eirlys, nice to see you! I am happy to know that you are doing well. Sometimes I feel frustrated and angry that I cannot go wherever I want (I had set a goal that 2020 would be the year of great, interesting trips - go figure!). But then I think that I am healthy and that is what counts (I live in Italy, it has been really scary for us). Let's enjoy the little pleasures! Your picture near the river is beautiful.

Helena

Your stubborn positivity inspires Eirlys!! xoxo

rachylou

Greetings Eirlys! Your trip to the river looks glorious! It’s all a bit sad. I’m going to be taking my vacation next month: I’d been putting it off hoping there might be some place to go, but alas... high probability that it will just be two weeks in the backyard! Oh well, what can we do?

Barbara Diane

I’m glad to get the update from you. Your photo is lovely and I am so glad you visited with your daughter.
I had several trips planned with my mother to see relatives and older friends; they are all on hold. Hopefully everyone’s health will hold out so we can eventually reschedule the trips.

Yesterday I felt like I escaped. I had a routine medical appointment in the city and, miracle of miracles, the air had cleared. We walked up steps with mosaics, and then walked a bit over to a view of the coast. We had never seen the steps before, so besides the excitement of actually being outside and moving, there was the thrill of something new.

Keep on keeping on.

Cardiff girl

what a lovely photo,!l am glad that you are safe and well.l can totally understand how you feel,time is precious and none of us know how long we have got so to feel that we are “wasting “it is difficult.
l think that we just have to try and live in the moment this year and stop thinking about all the things that we are missing .I am trying to focus on “small joys”this year.I wish you many small joys for the rest of the year and hopefully we will all be around to enjoy some bigger freedoms next year.

ophelia

I agree 100%.
I'm glad you're safe & well. I'm exhausted from guarding older family, fighting an invisible enemy & people's callousness, & feeling like I've been waiting for a Cat 5 hurricane to make landfall--for 6 months.
What this pandemic has done to older Americans is *shameful.*

avicennia

Wow! What a beautiful day with your daughter. It makes me happy just to read the words — trout-filled steam!

Anonymous

Happy to see you again Eirlys And glad you're doing well!

Eirlys

Active Member

Thank you ,Everyone. for your kind comments. I enjoyed reading your greetings though I have to mention, Angie, that I am neither wise, nor wonderful. I wish!! I do realise now how little I know and how little time there can be left to do something to remedy that. At least I have always had a glass that is half-full! That really helps.

Joy

Thank you for the update. I am glad you are well. This has been a very hard time with nothing (no plans) to look forward to. Who knows when we can travel or even go out to eat again.
I think of those in the generations before us and their much bigger sacrifices and feel we are so spoiled with all we have to keep us busy and entertained at home, but I understand the loss of time that passes so quickly. At least three dear friends have become widows recently.

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