Evolve-you made me laugh at "falling down The rabbit hole." I get distracted like that also. I could not agree more it is something more of a Herculean effort to stay clean and presentable when chasing toddlers I had not one clue. Thank you thank you thank you for the link I really appreciate it I’ll be able to read it soon. I think that I will add graphic tees to my list I have a few but I may need enough for seven days because that will probably be my flow it’s simple it’s clean it’s bright and I appreciate the inspiration
XtaBay-after reading all the comments here and sitting back and thinking about it I had to ask my friend to clarify and I’m glad y’all suggested it oh well gave me a different perspective. Basically she said that I look so tired and just not myself so it gave a lot of clarification I think I’m just a bit sensitive when it comes to my appearance because I know what I was wearing was but OK I mean it wasn’t Fancy but it was gear for the cold weather.
SlimCat-The suggestion of changing the laces in my shoes small but powerful. I ordered one in just about every color from Amazon that I can find I cannot wait till they arrive only thing is I have to buy some shoes to match maybe I’ll just go with a neutral pattern and then I can change out my shoes. And then I could get matching head wraps to match my shoe laces thank you so much for the inspiration I’m like the creative juices are flowing
Liesbeth-A mini capsule sounds perfect and you all have inspired me to take a couple days off of work and to invest in me and to invest in some gear and head wraps and things like that and I love color and pattern and so I will be on the hunt for exactly that may be a leggings form probably leggings form
Angie-thank you so much you know exactly what to say and I really appreciate that no wonder you are the guru that you are. Over the years I have appreciated how you find the individual spark in each of us and keep your own light shining and I really appreciate that Angie I really appreciate that
FashIntern-after reading your comments I had to sit back and think and then I reached out to my friend. What I appreciate about you and about the women here is that you give it straight no chaser. She just said I look so different and that she did not mean to offend but I took it in such away I think I’ve become extra sensitive maybe it’s because of Covid maybe it’s because of my daughter being sick and maybe it’s just a combination of things including midlife So I had to come down off of feeling sorry for myself and really look at what was going on and it’s that I’m not feeling good about what I look like and what I wear I will go back and look for gear inspiration and see how I can make it my own I appreciate your comments more than you know
Jacquez-you Have given me such great suggestions and as a new mom I feel everything you say I mean everything. I need to brighten up my wardrobe it has become a neutral wasteland. Thank you thank you so much Scarfs will be an added addition and color and pattern and texture which I miss. I already put in two days of vacation time so I could take some me time to reconnect.
Phoebe-low performance day. I love The way you word things. I love the way you framed sentences. I love that you reminded me of keeping my daughter alive almost a year ago on 10 January 2020 I love that you remind me sometimes our bodies are meant for more than fashion although I would love to look pulled together it was a daily struggle just to live and navigate the world as I saw it. Thank you for the strong reminder I really appreciate it
Joy-thank you so much for your testimony I’m nodding in agreement. I love adding sparkle and shine when I can. Your bandannas suit you so well. Scarves and new headwear will be on my list as I go out next week to spruce me up. Considering all of my friends and my sister are now grandparents lol I pray I have a bit of style when Zi has my grand babies. Much much later on
Mary Beth-you are such a uplifting person I needed to read your comments for sure. I will apply all of your suggestions I will find out what fits me. Nordstrom trip coming up next week I took 2 days off so I could do a bit of in person shopping. Thank you so much
FireCracker-I know looking back I’ve become overly sensitive. I had to ask my friend for clarification because I could not let it go. I love your suggestions and will look for coordinating colors. I miss smiling at people it encourages my heart and with mask and glasses everything is covered
La Pedestrienne-you named it. This is was my thought. Who am I without my child She is the sunshine and when I'm with her she is the center and I’m okay with that. It’s what others see when I’m alone in the world which is not often outside of work. It’s like I feel a spotlight on me.
Shevia-thank you for the new mama testimony oh boy twins. I needed this. It’s like I know who I am yet I’ve changed and I’m meeting this new person for the 1st time. Making sure I’m clean and neat is top priority I think I add my style to Zi right now.
Sun tiger-thank you for the inspiration I’ll take a look at you an LaPeds post. Adding the touches you suggested have given me a fresh set of eyes. Never even thought of colorful shoe laces. I could do that. I miss festivals. They were my escape from the monotony of the everyday
RachyLou- every time I read your comments. I get a visual because you are so descriptive and you make me laugh and think. Thank you so much. For reminding me. To take style and make it my own. Headwear speaks volumes. I think I will look into some new and colorful headwear. Oh I’ve not been to Nordstrom in a min. I’ll take a look
Thank you so much everyone for the uplifting comments for reading I know my extra long post I think I’m having a midlife moment I don’t want to call in a crisis but certainly a midlife moment of reconnecting with the new me I did go back and read some post I did probably the middle of last year and I was experiencing the same thing when I did get serviceable gear for my daughter and her therapist appointments. And I’ve taken so much inspiration I have two days off next week so I can treat Myself to some colorful hair wraps a walk-through Nordstrom shoe section and maybe some graphic long-sleeve tees and some thing that would flirt me especially scarves and neckwear that I can flip on a dime and where his head wraps you all have a little spark and I appreciate it. Also if you take the time to read this I want you to know that I did go back and call my friend and we had a we had a good conversation and I just misinterpreted some things that’s why I said my life moment because it’s like I just i’m feeling a certain way about my appearance. Clothes are my armor against the world and I think having my shape changed I’m still the same size but having the shape of my body changed and having to give up my shoe wardrobe has pushed me to a place that I don’t feel comfortable in I feel serviceable meat and presentable but not comfortable and not like who I am inside so my goal when I take my two days off it’s one go shopping and to put together a capsule wardrobe that will take me through this year I have great foundational pieces and work out pieces but I really need to invest in footwear and colorful shoe strings which I ordered from Amazon and just a great capsule wardrobe will help me feel more like me.