Hmm...I am not battling the occasional breaking out problem yet - so can't say which foundations I've tried that are good for that aspect. Cross off the Estee Lauder Double Wear, I think the coverage might be too heavy for you. I liked it because it actually stayed *on* during business trips with my husband to really hot locations this past summer (Dallas in August isn't my idea of a good time), instead of sliding off within an hour.
The Jane Iredale is known for being 'good' for skin - but I just happened upon it because my hair stylist put some on me a few times, and I bought it. I think it's only sold in salons and online, so might be a bit of a hassle to try it out - and you want to try before you buy.
I bought Make Up For Ever High Definition after researching ...I was part of a wedding party, and this one was recommended for being great in photos. It worked, and I still love it, but don't know if it's good for preventing/avoiding breakouts - you can get it at Sephora, and they will help you find a good shade and let you try it out etc. This one is almost a cult favourite or something - pretty good foundation, imo.
The Lancome Photogenic Lumessence is excellent - medium-ish coverage, and gives an almost 'lit from within' look. I'm not sure about the 'skin friendly' aspect. Worth a try next time you're in a dept. store. They might give you some decent-sized samples to take home and try out for a few days, ask
Try Sephora too. If no luck then try Ulta. Ulta has everything from drugstore brands up to higher end brands, and some good staff on hand to help you find something. Sephora has higher end brands, and they are also good at helping you out.
I'll be looking forward to hearing how your search for a decent foundation works out - it's just one of those things that seems to take a bit of time. It's ok if it takes quite a bit of looking and trying. No point in having jars of foundation sitting around that were potentially expensive that you can't use. In your case - I'd try to get as many samples as you can, once you've been matched up colour-wise as best as you can manage in the store. I think it might be important for you to be able try out a foundation for a few days rather than just a one time 'try on' in a store, due to concerns about how your skin will react to them.