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chewyspaghetti

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I know there are quite a few people here who have been dealing with health issues/weight gain or just not feeling into their fashion groove right now.
I am dealing with some health issues right now, and I know that it makes dressing difficult on a whole new level. I was wondering if there was a way that we could support each other here- with a check in thread, a challenge, or something else? I don't want to fall into wearing loungewear every day, even though that's really what I feel like wearing.
What do you guys think?

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Laura

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I'm in. Are you thinking we should post WiWs, or something else?

Sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Is there anything we can do, moral support, listening, advice, anything?

chewyspaghetti

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I'm not really sure- whatever people want to do. I was thinking WIW might be inspirational.

Thanks Laura. I don't think so. I'm on a new medicine that makes me tired,cold, and dizzy. I'm hoping that I acclimate to it more since I just started taking it. In the meantime, I need a reason to get dressed in the morning!

Queen Mum

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Khris- I'm sorry you're not feeling so well,. I would say don't set your bar too high. There is no shame in a simple dress or jeans and a shirt on these days that you aren't feeling so well. Kindof the "real clothes" version of loungewear. I hope you do get to feeling better soon.

Srujana

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Count me in too. This would mean the world to me right now. I've been in a shlump lately, and I've been blaming my weight gain on the fact that insanity at work has forced me to be careless about what I eat and left me with no time for working out, and some new meds I was on. Both of which are true facts. But the insanity died down two weeks ago, and the fact that I cancelled my gym membership means I have absolutely zero motivation to get myself moving. And it sucks even more when all the pretty things I've recently bought don't look as good on me anymore.

Khris, I hope you feel much better very soon. And I agree with Kim completely. Sunnier days will be here soon, and in the meantime, we'll get each other through it

Sarah

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I'm sorry you don't feel well, Khris. I have the flu and the only thing that kept me out of PJs today is that I had to come in to work.
Otherwise fabness would be out the window and I'd be laying on the couch in PJs just like I did all weekend.
Hang in there.
I reached for easy clothes that I already know fit well. I'm a little boring today, but I'm wearing black and grey checked skinny pants, a slate blue v-neck knit top, and black heels along with a silver menswear watch that my sister gave me.
I took the time to fix my hair nice and put on just blush and mascara so I don't look like death.

Sihaya

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Big hugs Khris. I spent almost the entire weekend in bed. Yesterday I set myself a goal - that no matter what, I would take a shower and get dressed. By 4pm. That gave me some grace, self-compassion, and leeway to deal with my physical issues but then a pick me up to look forward to.

Lynne

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Hugs all round! Dress in clothes that comfort and warm you, nothing tight or restrictive or tricky.....

biscuitsmom

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I'd really like that as well...I have some chronic health conditions that will never get better and it would be great to have a support system here, as well as being able to share fashion! Great idea, chewy!

Barbara

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chewy, sending some sunshine your way. Hang in there, and dress for comfort. I went through all that dizzy crap trying out HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). Good thing I finally got out of TAWANDA mode! And got some hormones that agree with my body chemistry. (I'm channeling FRIED GREEN TOMATOES!)

Feel better soon.

kellygirl

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Sorry to hear you aren't feeling up to par, Khris. Whatever you're up for, count me in. In the meantime, I'll try to think of a challenge (but don't hold your breath.)

shana

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Khris, sorry to hear that you have been having issues. I'm just getting over the flu so I feel like I'm living inside a Kleenex box lately. I've gained a ton of weight since the beginning of this year and it's been depressing not being able to wear all the fabulous things I bought for myself last year. I am at my all time non-pregnancy weight right now and I'm definitely feeling pretty blah (hence no WIW posts either). I've been focusing on picking up some pretty accessories to add some spark to my outfits. Oh and getting my butt back to the gym!

rute

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Oh.. CS Sorry to hear that! Please get well soon!!

chewyspaghetti

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Thanks for all of the support ladies. I got dressed today in real clothes. I'm going to try driving. The side effects seem to be worse a couple hours after taking the meds, so I am feeling ok right now. When I get home, I can remove the shoes/jewelery/vest and be as comfy as I would in loungewear.

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rute

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oh.. You are fab, as always! Even the hair is gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I'm sick, I go for a plain jeans and a feminine cotton comfy blouse and I find that a bit of make up always help!

Carole

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Big hug, hope you adjust and are feeling better soon. I think we all have times that make it difficult to committ to looking fabulous every day. My problem right now is I can't get to my closet...we are remodeling our bathroom and you have to walk thru there to get in.

Just be comfortable and let us know how things are going. I'm up for a challenge, count me in!

Debora

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Awww, Khris, so sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Hugs to you and to all the others who are feeling not so fab.You look wonderful, as always, in the above outfit, but be sure to pamper yourself. Wear comfort clothes if that is what makes you feel better and know that you'll find support here.

kellygirl

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You look so stylish, Khris. What a fabulous tunic outfit. You are stunning from head to toe! Hope you feel better soon!

Queen Mum

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great outfit Khris...and it is perfectly acceptable to take off the "fruff" when you get home to be comfy.

Anonymous

I'm feeling blue lately too. I guess it's catchy this time of year. I don't have a reason to get dressed and run kids to school anymore, or go to work.

lady

Glad to hear those side effects have worn off.....

i'm in the 'gained weight' camp and would love a bit of support. Unsure what we could do but I'm up for it!

Jenava

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I know I won't be happy until I can lose this extra weight! But that's just something I have to work on. I don't feel like going out of my comfort zone, which makes me feel boring and sad-sack-like.

Hubby and I are both about to start a new semester (we are both students - he's in under-grad working part time, and I'm a grad student going to school at night and working during the day). Soon I will be so busy I won't have time to feel happy or sad, or anything at all! Sometimes I wonder if having downtime is my downfall...

annagybe

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I'm extra bloaty right now and seem to be up 6 lbs. That enough for some serious muffin top in one pair of my jeans.

Laura (rhubarbgirl)

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Ugh, I am totally with you. Still dealing with mysterious health ailment that the doctors haven't figured out yet, and feeling blah off and on, not to mention being a few pounds heavier than I want.

When I was really struggling with my depression, I started to make an effort to get dressed by x o'clock (usually 10am as a hard cutoff). At that time I took pictures for my blog and posted them, mostly as a reason to get myself together than anything else. I think posting them here, if people feel like it, could be a good motivator. Otherwise, just a daily check-in, maybe?

This morning I had a hard time getting dressed because I had no good ideas - sometimes I put together a week's worth of outfits beforehand on the weekend, or at least pull out some key items that I'm interested in wearing, but I hadn't done that. Doing something like that might be helpful to people - when you're feeling high-energy pick out your outfits ahead of time, so they're ready when you need them.

Kari

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Khris, I'm so sorry that you aren't feeling well. I hope that your body adjusts to the new medication soon and that the side effects will be less bothersome - if they don't vanish altogether.

I'm with you. I let my weight get way up this year and a lot of items in my closet don't fit. It's very demotivating. I'm posting WIWs and taking near-daily photos again to try to psych myself up into dressing in the clothes I love that DO fit right now. Plus, I'm at the tail end of a really terrible respiratory cold that I've had for nearly 3 weeks. It's nowhere near what you're dealing with, but I am so sick of having coughing fits all the time!

I'll be offline for about a week or so starting in a few days, but when I'm back on the forum I'd love to jump in.

Angie

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Sorry, ladies! It's wretched to not feel 100%. By all means start support threads and let us know how we can help.

Khris, you look k-word worthy in that outfit! No one would know you weren't feeling yourself. I'm impressed.

I like the idea of inspirational WIW posts. Follow is Kari's footsteps

Mac

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I'd be up for a challenge. Current meds are making me feel (and probably look) swollen and sore... and last month's breakup is still taking its toll. Tell us how we can give support and I'll try to take part! *hugs*

Elly

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I would be interested in participating depending on what we were doing-- support would be great, but I am not sure I could take part in many challenges between having a bit of a dismal closet and low energy. Until I am able to order some more clothes I literally have t's and jeans to wear-- which is fine, but not really worth anyone looking at pics of.

I am sorry to hear that so many of you are dealing with medical problems or weight gain or just the blahs. I laughed because some of your medication symptoms are symptoms of my condition, I so sympathize! I have been having a hard time this week since my accident-- the extra stress and the injuries healing means that I am exhausted, in pain, and have been blacking out more than usual. Fall and winter are just hard seasons for me in general, especially with cold and flu season. I'm immune deficient so it is a battle staying healthy-- especially at a college or workplace where higher ups encourage people to come in sick. A cold can last a really long time for me and completely knock me out where I can't even stand up. I have been coming to YLF a lot when I am not feeling up to doing other stuff and it cheers me up.

It is hard because my illness does play into fashion choices, but when I have tried to explain things on other fashion forums I felt like people didn't think I was "trying" hard enough. After all, if they could iron, I could iron if I really cared enough. At the same time, self-esteem and how you feel about the way you look can play into down feelings and feelings of depression related to coping with an illness (or circumstances). However, I have generally been poo-pooed when I have shared these concerns with forum members from chronic illness support groups.

So, I am in!

Michelle

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Khris, I am so in. I practically burst into tears when I read this idea just because it's so timely for me. I've been feeling low and just not fab mentally of late, which of course translates to physical attributes too. I tend to use fashion as a crutch to support me at times like this, so this is right up my alley. Count me in!
I'm really sorry to hear you've been facing health problems. *big, big hugs*

Isabel

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You look fabulous !! I am sorry to hear that you are not feeling well. I would love a check in thread.

I was going to wait until mid November to post my first WIW....because it will be a year for me since I found this great site. It was also the week that I came home from the hospital after spending 11 days in ICU after an artery in my stomach burst and I needed 14 blood transfusions. I almost bled to death and it took almost 3 days to get the bleeding under control. I also started new meds and I gained about 60 pounds. 30 lbs was weight I lost while on a feeding tube and the other 30 were bonus points !!!! For the first time in my life I was larger than a size 4, like an 8-10. I still have some bad days ( I am still dealing with what led to the problem).

My point in all this is that I sooooooo understand. Hang in there. You have gotten through losing so much weight, that took so much courage. You probably will acclimate, if you don't, ask you doctor if there can be a dosage change or something. Be compassionate with yourself.

In the meantime, I will start posting very soon. Forget Nov. I will do it in solidarity with you and with SYC.

Here's lookin' at you and soon lookin' at me ( GULP ) ! But beware, you are much better at dressing than I am, so my pics may actually depress you. Just sayin'.

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