Thimbelina -I loved reading that!

thimbelina, beautiful way to look at life and the changes it throws at us.

I too think a shopping expedition is in order. there is a reason we call it shop therapy and it is because having new pretty things to wear makes us feel better. I am all for feeling happier.

Buying new clothes that fit the body you have doesn't mean you're giving up on getting fit or being healthy! In fact, I'm pretty sure I've read at least anecdotal stories that people are motivated to start or continue exercising simply because their new clothes fit them so well, it was like an instant weight loss.

I'm another one like AJ (well, not petite) but such that 5 lbs makes a huge difference in how things fit (particularly around the tummy). It was an interesting excercise yesterday trying on dresses at Macy's. The small size made me look hippy and a little pregnant, the next size up was like - *wow* - I look pretty good! You deserve to feel *wow* when you look in the mirror - get thee to a shopping mall!

You've received some great advice here - hopefully it's helpful to know that you are NOT alone! It's definitely worth it to go out and buy something that fits your body now. If I'm in clothes that are too tight and therefore uncomfortable, I tend to obsess over that and find it very difficult to focus on doing anything productive, like eating well or making the time to be active. Punishing yourself by dressing in clothes that are uncomfortable and unflattering is just going to make it that much harder to treat yourself and your body with the respect you both deserve.

Fathenry --

Of course you deserve to feel good in what you are wearing, but I know the struggle. Maybe start with a few key pieces you enjoy wearing.

Anecdotal, but every woman I know who's been in the same situation (myself included) has been more motivated to start/get back on the healthier living train when they are wearing clothes that make them feel good. IMO/E it creates a very positive cycle, whether the end result is getting back in smaller-sized clothes or not.

Thimbelina -- beautiful post!