That is SO sweet of you to say, Michelle! I really appreciate it....yes, I usually feel 'inferior' in any social situation, so this did a number on me....thank you for your great memory and kind words

I think being stuck up is more in how one carries oneself, the attitude you walk with, how you treat others, etc. You can dress very luxe and be the sweetest person (I know some) or you can dress like a frump and be quite a snob (I know some of those, too).

BM - You are such a wonderful person to be Steve's friend. People with a history of mental disease tend to scare most people off. Though I don't understand why. You are a shining example of someone with a heart. Thank you so much for you kind words about me, too !!! It means so much coming from you.

I was thinking about this a little more today and I thought that maybe Steve thought he was demonstrating his loyalty to you. You could thank him for that and then tell him that in the future, you would rather not know and concentrate on good friends like him !!!

AND, OMG. for a whipper-snapper, Michelle is the wisest person on Earth. What a fantastic suggestion ! Oh, I forgot, she IS 30 now : )

honestly, yes, i have thought someone is stuck up based on his/her overall appearance which includes clothes. that is why your clothing is so important....it projects the first impression when you meet someone. but even if you think that, it isn't something that should be said out loud!!!

I don't think I've ever thought somebody was, "stuck up".

I believe that us thinking that a person is, "stuck up", is a reflection of what we believe they are thinking about us.

If we think we are crap/ugly/boring/worthless etc, we will assume that X must think so because she is well dressed/pretty/shy/tall or any other indicator that they are not like us and therefore X is, "stuck up".

I'm don't know if I'm articulating this well but I hope you understand what I am trying to say.

Isabel, thank you SO much! Your kindness and insight are amazing....M, I totally agree! A, you articulated that quite well I think you made a great point....I was just shocked by her hostility- both verbal and the glare she kept giving me! She honestly looked like she was ready to spit at me

Your post really resonated with me. I don't think about other people in this way but I think people think of me as stuck -up by my appearance. I was at a conference this weekend (where I was the most dressed up person) and I realized that people were in general a little colder towards me. Once we got to talking, it was ok but there was definitely an initial hurdle to overcome.