You have given me a lot of food for thought.
Runcarla: I have a feeling it might be lazy tailoring too, in some cases.
Sarahd8: That's a really great sweater and I like the neckline on you. I don't see the problems you see.
The Cat, Irina, Kate: I like drop shoulder pull overs too. Drop shoulder knitwear works very well on me, provided the sleeves are slim or a roll the sleeves up. I guess it kind of emphasizes the lack of a chest, but that seems alright to me.
Angie: That's a beautiful picture of you all in the boat. The madewell ruffle shirt looks fabulous on you. That is exactly the type of vibe I'm looking for in a shirt. So I'm going to get something like that, and leave the tricky toppers to brick-and-mortar shopping.
To all:
I like Angie's drop shoulder coat. That seems tailored and not at all oversized.
I also like drop shoulder denim jackets -- these are easy to find at the brick-and-mortar stores, so I'll keep an eye out.
My daughter (13) is now a fashion expert and tells me that oversized denim jackets are the only thing you can wear nowadays