Diana, I am going through the EXACT SAME QUANDRY, even comparing ponte pants to the BR Martins. BUT, I did order another pair of ponte pants that I prefer to the NYDJ. The fabric is much more substantial, and they have a nice wide waist band, so, while quite fitted, they are not nearly as legging-like. I suggest you might want to try them. They are the Vince Camuto ponte pant. I'm still on the fence, as I've really enjoyed looser trousers and jeans this year, and like you, I'm not sure exactly how I would style them. So, this weekend I'll be trying a bunch of options to help me decide.
ETA: for some reason the link keeps taking me to the heather grey pants, but they also come in black (although not for 50% off, sadly). Just search "Vince Camuto ponte pant".