Just the definitions of "long" vs "short" hair vary from person to person. A while back, Angie wrote something about having grown her hair out and I thought "what? Was I gone that long? Did I miss something?" Turned out her hair was maybe as long as mine in this pic, which for me is short. Made me laugh and realize that yes, her hair was considerably longer, and that those basic terms are relative to a person's individual norms.
I've changed my hair up a few times. Generally kept it "boy" short while in grade school, then grew it out through middle school until in high school, in the 80s, it fell to my bra strap and I had a "body" perm that made it as wide as my shoulders. I've had bobs and pixies, grew it long while preggo, chopped it off, and then grew it back to where it is today.
At any length (with the exception of high school), it's been important to me to have basically "wash and wear" hair that doesn't require much effort. I've got better things to do than that! You don't have to like how I wear it, but I'd keep anyone who didn't accept the length or style at a distance. (For that matter, I'd keep anyone who was opinionated about any part of my style and judged whether it was "up to their standards" at a distance--or just pity them.)
I loved my son's hair longer when he was little, but I was not good at taking care of it. In this photo, his hair is *much* longer than mine--went past his shoulders when it was wet/straight. I wish he'd try it again now, but he doesn't want to. Also, we are both a bit leery that, similar to what DonnaF experienced, women would be attracted to the hair with certain incorrect expectations of him as a person. And of course, police officers and supervisors of all types reading the wrong thing into a black man’s hairstyle can be detrimental.
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