Maya, that made me laugh, about how we are deceived about your parents :).
I hear you, San, about guys still being cute to you. My husband is a geeky guy and for years dressed in shorts and t shirts like people do in those work places here in the Northwest. And for those years he was still cute to me. But about six or seven years ago his job changed and he was going to be interviewing people so he felt he should start wearing long pants :)...just jeans, but nice ones, and button downs and even a suit jacket in cooler weather. We got them all at Value Village if you can believe it...Nordstrom's shirts!
Not only was he surprised at how much more positively people responded to him, he also found that he felt more pulled together and capable of doing better work. So much so that he dresses that way still even though he returned to working at the techy place and often even when he is not at work. It really gave him confidence. And it's been sweet to witness his transformation, much the same as we see happen here to us ylfabbers. It's like he was always attractive, but now he knows it too. We know how good that feels.
Maya, maybe that is what you mean about finding a guy that brings his A game style wise. What we wear reflects how we feel about ourselves, and who doesn't want a confident guy? I think also, it is what you are exposed to. The euro guys see well dressed men around them and in the city here, it is the same. Come to think of it, most of those years when my husband dressed sloppier, we lived in the suburbs at that time!
