Black Friday & Reflection - YouLookFab Forum

I usually don't do much for Black Friday; I hate crowds, I don't really like shopping if I can't do it at a leisurely pace, and my tendency is to pick more things than are in my budget and then really think about them as I narrow my final purchase down, which just isn't possible when stores are packed and lines are long. So I treat myself to a couple things online.

This year I only bought from Torrid because they had 40% off on EVERYTHING and 50% off on clearance items, and I find their sizing and quality to be fairly consistent. I tried to stick to things I really needed, so I got three t-shirts and a refresh on my underwear (I am an adult and I just bought super hero panties, y'all)... plus this freaking fabulous pair of pants I've been lusting after but refused to pay the full price for:

http://www.torrid.com/product/.....cgid=jeans

They didn't have the "tall" inseam in my size, so I got "extra tall." I'll either roll/cuff them if they end up being too long, or I'll have them shortened.

Here are the tees I chose:

http://www.torrid.com/product/.....=tops-tees

http://www.torrid.com/product/.....76066.html

I picked the Star Trek and "I Solemnly Swear" ones because I LOVE Star Trek and Harry Potter. I'm a huge geek, and things related to my fandoms always make me happy. Another contender was a cool Star Wars shirt, but I already have one. I also like the Harry Potter one because "I solemnly swear that I am up to no good" is pretty much my motto as of late. As a soon-to-be-divorcee, I've been spending more time doing the things that I love that my ex didn't and leaning on my awesome rebel girl friends. Finally, I chose the "smooth as whiskey" one because... whiskey. Do I really need a better reason? I think not!

I'm going for more punk rock, casual, boyish, and creativity in my clothes these days. There's something about spunky clothes that make me feel like I can take on the world, and given everything I've been through this year, it's a feeling I can't have too much of. I've been letting my curls go wild, skipping makeup unless I'm really in the mood for it, and choosing clothes in which I can be active and comfortable. I've gone hiking and trail walking twice this week and I feel fantastic. I've lost 10 pounds in the last 2 months (down to 228 from over 240 in September--slow going, but steady). I've made a commitment to myself to put myself first for a while and not feel guilty about it. I've fallen out of love with my ex and back in love with life.

9 years ago

Anonymous

Sounds like a great Black Friday!

Barbara Diane

Veteran

I love that you're living and dressing with gusto. With great results.

rachylou

Well, can't go wrong with punk Sounds like you've got a new lease on life and it's a good one!

cindysmith

I'm so proud of you for putting yourself first and finding a new love for life. As a recovering alcoholic, I know how hard that is, and how huge that is. I'm sending lots of good juju your way hoping you continue to find the adventure and joy in life.

Nice picks. I love the pants, and that "up to no good" tee is freaking awesome.

Bijou

I am with you on hating to shop in crowded sales environments. I just find it overwhelming. I love that you are having fun with fashion and forging your own path. You should be proud of all that you have achieved this year.

El Cee

Fabulous purchases all around... and love the idea of superhero undies! So happy to hear that you are putting yourself first and that you are finding joy in spunky clothes and self expression.

approprio

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Kaelyn: I was so sure I posted in your other thread but I must have thought better of it. I had the feeling from what you said there that the breakup would be a positive move and it seems like it has been. Delighted to know that you're out and about doing things you love. I'm with you on Team Printed Tee.

Kaelyn

zoiechic, absolutely! I had buyer's remorse for all of five minutes and then got excited all over again, so I suppose that's a good sign.

Barbara Diane, thank you! Gusto is definitely a good thing.

rachylou, definitely agree that you can't go wrong with punk. There's a reason people have loved that look and stayed with it for so long! I'm looking forward to adding to my collection of punky clothes over time.

cynthiawalkersmith, I am not an alcoholic, but I have a lot of family members who have struggled with addiction to alcohol, cigarettes, other drugs. I'm so glad to hear that you are recovering and loving life. I know that isn't easy to do. Much love to you, and thank you for the encouragement! Your comments mean so much to me. <3

Bijou, thank you so much! I'm definitely proud of what I've accomplished, and even prouder of the person I'm becoming at this period of change in my life. Odd as it may sound, my divorce is making me a more confident person. I've been forced to do a lot of things that cause me anxiety and I've gotten through every single one. It's a good feeling.

El Cee, men have had super hero boxers for... ever, so I was so psyched to find super hero undies for women that I simply had to. I figure nobody's going to see them, but they'll make me feel like Wonder Woman!

approprio, I feel better and better about it every day. There are some setbacks, but for the most part, I've seen the kind of person he is and realizing we just weren't compatible. I want to move forward in life and have adventures, and he just doesn't. I feel free now, weightless. And HOORAY for Team Printed Tee! All I wore as a teenager were tees and jeans, and I'm having fun figuring out ways to wear them as a more sophisticated adult.

Jaime

Your positive attitude is infectious. I also love that you got a Star Trek tee with the original cast.

lpr200

Kaelyn, your Black Friday shopping story is my favorite!

shevia, I have fond memories of watching Star Trek reruns with my dad when I was a kid. Since Netflix has the whole show, I've been wanting to watch it from beginning to end! Maybe I'll start over my Christmas break.

Brooklyn

Great choices. You go girl!

Firecracker (Sharan)

Great choices, and shopping online is so much easier than braving the crowds, isn't it? I did a little online shopping myself on Black Friday. Not for clothes, but for some of my favorite body lotions and things, some for gifts!

catgirl

I have an "I solemnly swear" tee (and DS has a matching one)! Nice choices!

Greyscale

Hooray for superhero undies!

I've fallen out of love with my ex and back in love with life.

This is amazing. Rock on.

Ledonna N.

First off Star Trek. Winning winner

Next cute and colorful jeans cannot wait to see your purchases in action.

Lastly, never feel guilty about putting yourself 1st and setting your boundaries.

Can I get an amen?

When I got my divorce I indulged in what I loved. I had been a we for so long I forgot to be a me. So get your life.

Ledonna, you most certainly can get an amen!

I think that people, especially women, are viewed negatively when they prioritize their own needs, and it's unfortunate, because we need to take care of ourselves before we can help others. I'm focused on fewer relationships in my life right now but they're really meaningful ones, and the people closest to me understand.

cheryl

Those pants are amazing and i love the tees too. My kind of dressing. I'm so happy to hear how well you are doing and that you are loving life again.

Bonnie

Good for you. You need to take care of and pamper yourself. I think you will look great in your Black Friday choices.

Hi Kaelyn!!! You are an inspiration to me in all things. Yay for you.

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