Sorry to post and run yesterday; it was DH's birthday with lots to do!
How your comments have solved my Belt Conundrum? Let me count the ways...
Recently I started with one belt on an outfit but switched to black and even I could see that it looked wildly better. Joy and Janet it was your illusion idea in practice - my blouse had a black background so the belt lengthened that short waist of mine. I never would have figured that out; thank you for the lightbulb moment. That is a lesson I won't forget.
Aida, DonnaF, Lulu, and Brooklyn similarly the idea of making your belt the same tone as your pants (or again your tops) is groundbreaking for me. I am starting to see the belt as a deliberate choice depending on what my outfit might need.
Ledonna: It is a style goal of mine to be better about taking things to the tailor -- thank you for reinforcing that!
Aziraphale:. You have solved the mystery why I don't like a thin belt over a sweater and sheath dress combination. It is so much better to know why something doesn't look good, than thinking I don't look good.
AviaMariah: Faux tuck sounds like something I need to learn how to do.
Sochi602 - thanks for the encouragement on the silver theme idea. I am not good at evaluating different choices on me but will try on a couple of different widths.
Angie: Thank you for taking the time to post. I am very encouraged that a metallic belt works for almost all your clients -- I'm feeling more confident that I can make it work for me, too!
Torontogirl and Muffin: I'm glad to know there are others like me who are learning from all this collective wisdom!
UmmLila: I would never have thought of JCrew, but of course, now that you mention it...
I see belt colors like brown, taupe, tan, white, black, metallic, and cognac would be good workhorse-type choices and animal print and cammo might be surprising workhorse-type choices.
Does anyone wear blue to go tonal with their blue jeans?
Note to self: next season, be sure to set aside more of the budget for accessories.