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Be careful what you wish for

ANewMindset

I debated about posting this.
At the end of last year all i wanted to do was fit into all of my clothes of various sizes throughout my house.

I also said that I would never not color my hair, and that i would never get a short haircut.

Earlier this year I got the dreaded diagnosis. Found during mammogram, there was nothing i could have felt no way to know.

I lost my hair and am now rocking a salt and pepper look somewhere between a buzz and a pixie. My old clothes fit.

Ironically I am now healthier than i have ever been. I am motivated beyond belief of having a VERY HEALTHY lifestyle.... diet, excerise, low stress, etc. Its still a mental struggle.
I now wear my "good" jewelry every day
I am ready to write off this year and turn the page to the next one.

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Latest reply was from Firecracker (Sharan)

Bijou

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ANewMindset - well done on your very healthy lifestyle. Whilst that is no certainty against sickness, it certainly helps with recovery. Glad to hear you are enjoying your good stuff now and a timely reminder to us all to enjoy each and every day. Wishing you good health and happiness in 2023, it is very brave of you to share this important message - thankyou.

Helena

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ANewMindset, thank you so much for sharing this. A good reminder to all of us to keep current on mammograms as we can, and thank goodness they detected it. I'm so sorry for the ordeal you must have been through - I'm sure it's been exhausting, scary, frustrating and more. Amazing that you are giving yourself wonderful self care in the way of healthy living - totally agree with Bijou; I'm sure its immensely supportive to your body while it works to recover. Sending massive love and wishes for healing and peace of mind. Glad you are wearing the good jewellery! xx

kkards

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ANewMindset --i'm so sorry that you had to go thru this. it sounds like you have been thru a lot, but have managed to/or are managing to find a way thru. Good for you. Yes, to wearing your good jewellery, yes to managing your stress...and Yes to 2023. wishing you health and happiness in the new year.

Suz

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Wishing you renewed health in the year ahead and beyond. You've been through a tough ordeal. It's an important reminder for us all.

Cardiff girl

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You sound like you are coping admirably with very difficult circumstances.l hope next year is happier and healthier for you and thank you for reminding us all to appreciate what we have now.

Angie

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Oh, what a challenging year, ANewMindset. My hat off to you for weathering it so well. Very relieved to hear that you are on the other end of it all. Wishing you ongoing good health, great style, fun wearing your good jewellery, and a fabulous 2023!

rachylou

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You’re a tough cookie and it sounds like you’re rocking it! A salt and pepper pixie buzz and your good jewelry sounds like smokin’ style

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Style Fan

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ANewMindset, I am so glad you posted this. What an ordeal you have gone through! I wish you all the best for the coming year.

CarolS

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I'm sorry you've been through so much, but glad to hear you are coming out of it with literally a new mindset and approach to life. Keep wearing the good jewelry. Wishing you good things in 2023.

Janet

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I’m sorry you’ve been going through all that! But it sounds like you have a wonderful attitude of healing and optimism. I am sending all the good vibes for a much healthier and happier future for you!

ophelia

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Wow, I’m so sorry. I was a bit “luckier” than you yet am nowhere near your stage of recovery mentally or physically.
I’m not a candidate for chemo—although I don’t think that would stop certain overzealous oncologists from encouraging me—but I was E/P + w/ no LN involvement. I did & still am suffering severe radiation injury & infection from medical error. I’ve lost half my income so insurance is an issue.
It really realigned me to have a feeling similar to having someone sneak up behind me & slam a timer down.
You aren’t alone, even here.
Best wishes & good luck.

Sal

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Thanks ANewMindset and Ophelia for posting. What a year with challenges. Onwards for 2023 and wearing the good jewelry or clothes is a great idea. Why not- none of us know what’s around the corner.

ophelia

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Sal, thank YOU for the warmth, understanding & especially the kindness you consistently extend to everyone on the forum & undoubtedly irl too. ❤️

ANewMindset

Thank you everyone for the support and warm wishes.

I am told that at some point in the future there will be days when this is not in the forefront of my mind at every second. I am really looking forward to that.

Thanks again. ❤️

ANewMindset

Ophelia, I am sorry for what you went through. While the treatment and recovery path is different for everyone, it is greuling and scary and traumatizing for us all.

Sisi

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You did well to post this . I am sorry for what you went through.
But I admire your great attitude! Yes, wear all the good jewels, use all the good china, the crystal glasses, treat youself like a princess! Best wishes for a new year full of health and joy.

Firecracker (Sharan)

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Aw, geez. I'm so sorry to hear of your ordeal, and that of Ophelia. I wish you both continued recovery and health. I appreciate the thoughts and feelings you've shared here. It is a shock to think how many people I know who are being treated or who have gone through treatment for cancer. I just love your reminder to wear the good jewelry--thank you!