Oh Ladies. It seems I only show up here once every 6 months or so to weep and complain and to beg for help. I do come on and read more often than that but I haven't felt like I've had much to contribute in the last couple of years. So here I am again, begging for help.

I've gained about 30 pounds in the last two years and NOTHING fits me. I'm sort of freaking out because I have a whole closet full of fall and winter clothing and there is very, very little that I can squeeze into. I don't have one single pair of jeans I can wear. At the beginning of summer I broke down and bought a pair of boyfriend style cuffed mid-calf length jeans. I've worn them virtually every day since then.

I am trying hard to lose weight but as we all know, it's harder to get it off than it is to get it on! I have a wonderful opportunity to take a weekend away with my husband at the end of this month. It will be the first time we've been away overnight together since the twins were born 3.5 years ago! I'm excited but now very stressed out because I just don't have anything to wear. We'll be in the mountains in Asheville, North Carolina. We'll be attending a reception one evening and then having casual time for two days. I am going to have to break down and buy something to wear to the reception and also one smart casual outfit. I am sure I can be ok with one dress or something stylish and a notch above casual, one pair of decent looking jeans, and two tops. I have shoes I can wear.

We're in a particular money crunch this month but I do have $300 of gift cards for Talbot's. I don't think that would be my first choice of a store but that's what I have.

I've gone from having a very hourglass shape (and I never ever felt comfortable surrendering my waistline, as some of you might remember!) to being quite a bit more pear-shaped. My formerly large bosom seems huge and matronly to me now. I'm not sure how to dress myself (despite having read everything Angie's ever written about shape!). I need to take a deep breath and go to Talbots this weekend and maybe next to get a few things. I'm afraid it's going to be a miserable, emotional experience.

One positive is that I have wonderful, supportive, specialty-store bras that put my boobs where I want them to be!

OK. I don't know whether I have a specific question. Suggestions for Talbot's items would be great. General commiseration is welcome. My style has always been "bombshell" but I'm not feeling very bombshellish at the moment. Something above "sweatpants mom" would be good. I just turned 45. Ack! I'd like to look sophisticated and like I am an appropriate wife for someone in my husband's position (this is a work/conference trip for him and the reception is important).

Thanks friends