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Are you really making the most of your best feature?

Anonymous

I read a feature on Catherine Summers' blog the other day about making the most of your best feature or features and it got me thinking. In the article she says that you may not think you have one but it is possible to make the effort to improve on things and get a best feature. The idea isn't about having plastic surgery or the like. If you think you have nice hands, make the effort to have a regular manicure ( or do them yourself) and wear a fab ring, then use them when you talk. If you have good legs but they could be amazing then exercise and pamper them. You get the idea.
I was talking to my mum about this yesterday and said that I like my eyes and eyebrows, then she said I did have nice eyebrows (hers are fine and patchy) so I showed her what they were really like without my magic touch... see the pic below in which I have removed the eyebrow pencil on the eye on the right.
I always use a fine pencil everyday and extend the outer third and fill them in as I feel they help to frame my eyes and I always use eye make up.
I'm sorry if it seems like I'm blowing my own trumpet so to speak, but I was wondering ... have you thought about your best feature or do you want to make the most of a part of you and make it fab? Have you thought about what you could do to obtain it?
Just trying to spread a little self love to everyone as it's good for self confidence and lord knows we all need some of that.

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Janet

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Interesting to think about. You do have lovely eyes, and the eyebrow pencil is so well done I never would have known you use it! The effect is subtle but definitely has impact.

My eyes are one of my stronger assets, and I do try to keep my eyebrows groomed because they tend to get unruly. I also default to at least wearing just a bit of eye pencil and mascara, even on the most minimal makeup days. When I do wear more makeup, I play up my eyes and leave my lips subtle.

I like my hands and feet. This is a big part of why unique statement rings and sandals are such a part of my style. I rarely go for professional mani-pedis, but I do try to keep my nails nice.

Body wise, well...in all honesty, sadly my best assets are covered up in public, but I do pay attention to great-fitting, flattering bras for that.

Anonymous

Ha Janet! Yes we wouldn't want you getting arrested for flaunting your assets.
It sounds like you are making the effort with your best features and it pays off. We do need to make an effort though and some subtle enhancing never hurt anyone and it makes us feel good. Not only do I have patchy fine eyebrows but my eyelashes are very fine and disappear without mascara. It's all smoke and mirrors as I look eyeless without some help.

rachylou

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Hmm. I'm not much interested in any particular feature (so typical, hehe). In real life, it could be my legs (once upon a time my hair would have given them a run for their money - sadly, it has thinned). I feel too old to flash a lot of leg. I want respect not dates. That said, I could certainly endeavour not to bang them up so much and moisturise for goodness sake!

ironkurtin

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I'm not sure which are my star attractions. I think we've got a lot of neck-and-neck contenders, but is it my skin, my butt, my legs? My winning smile? Got me.

Diana

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Well, I've gotten several comments here that my smile looks bigger/brighter after I had my hair cut, so I guess I am flaunting it!

Otherwise, I like my long legs and sometimes I do dress to accentuate them, but more often I think they allow me to wear things like ankle straps that might be unflattering on people with shorter legs. Not quite the same as playing them up but I do appreciate them.

Angie

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You DO have beautiful eyes and brows, Diane. They are large and soulful, and I've mentioned their magnetism before. *Enchanting*.

Janet, I love your gorgeous eyes too. And don't think I haven't noticed your amazing decolletage

Dana, I vote legs and bottom for you!

Rachy, I love your legs!

Diana, I vote your skin, smile and loooooooooooooooong legline!

Anonymous

Yes, Diane, you have great eyes. They are so soulful and arresting.

Janet, you have great eyes too, and I love your smile. And your assets.

Dana, you have fab legs and shoulders (I love those gold platforms you were rocking).

Rachy, you do have great legs, and I love the curve of your jaw too.

Diana, your smile lights up the room!

TraceyLiz65

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Yes, your eyes are beautiful and worth accenting!
I have been told by way too many people in m life that I have beautiful eyes as they are a lighter unusual shade of brown. I however really love my cheek-bones and am so happy to have them back after the weight loss.
Going for a hair cut hopefully next week (if my guy has appt available) and think that shoulder length or shorter helps highlight my cheekbones...

And if anyone has links to haircut suggestions for me, would love to see them...

rae

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I don't have a clue what mine would be. My ankles? o_0 From when I was young, I've always gone on the assumption that it all needs help.

Aziraphale

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Diane, it's true, you DO have beautiful eyes and eyebrows. Even without the makeup! But yes, I agree with you that makeup is great for subtle enhancement. For me -- and I must say that my eyes are not my best feature -- a swipe of mascara on my pale lashes makes a huge difference.

I don't know that I have any one great feature, but I have several pretty good ones. I try to make the most of them. Shapely legs, good hair, cupid's-bow smile, white teeth, nice rack. Unfortunately I'm a little uncomfortable exposing décolletage, so I don't make the most of that last one as much as I could. But I do wear skirts with heels and tight jeans when I want to take advantage of having good legs, I try to keep my hair in a good cut and condition, and I usually wear bold lipstick.

Anonymous

Oh, Rae, your skin, and lips, and legs come to mind! I also have a teeny crush on your nose.

Tracey, you do have nice cheekbones! Can you get a couple shorter layers cut in to direct attention there?

Anonymous

Lots of lovely replies! And thank you for the compliments.
Rachy you do have fab legs and your great shoes and boots show them off.
Angie, thank you, I think you have fabulous milky pale skin.
Ceit I think you have great, long legs.
Tracey, Yes you have lovely eyes and cheek bones and I think a bit of an angle and a few subtle layers for your hair would highight them.
Rae are you kidding! you have AMAZING skin and figure
Aziraphale, you sound like you are really playing on your best features and enhancing them beautifully.

rute

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I like my face and my waist!

Anonymous

I 'm sorry Diana! I missed you off my previous response You do have a dazzling smile and your haircut is fab! And you rock a skirt with your gams!
Rute your have such a pretty face that your hair accentuates so well and your waist looks great in a dress, you show it off beautifully, great job

Astrid

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I think my smile is one of my best features! I'm not doing anything to play it up though. I almost never use lipstick and my teeth could be whiter - but I can't do without my tea and coffee and teeth whitening isn't all that common here. And I have a little bit of a built-in blush, which is nice because I don't really wear make up.

I also have a fairly big bum in comparison to my small waist (especially obvious if I'm at my optimal weight). I do get compliments because of that, but it's not something I'm really comfortable with myself. I've never really got into wearing pencil skirts because I always felt they were highlighting it too much.

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Anonymous

Astrid, you do have a lovely smile and you are young with fab skin so don't need make-up You know if you had a pencil skirt that wasn't too tight round your thighs it wouldn't go in under your bottom as much and wouldn't over-accentuate it then. Skimming is the way to go.

Astrid

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Thanks Diane! And yes, I feel like I could do one if it were straighter. But most of the time they are either completely straight down or curving in too much. I haven't found a happy medium yet, especially if the waist has to fit too.

Anonymous

Dana (Ironkurtin), meant to say, you have a fantastic fit physique!

ElleH

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You do have lovely eyes & brows Diane. On my body I would have to say my legs but it isnt considered appropriate for a woman of my age to show them. I always had a good bust before this latest weight loss but I don't like to flaunt cleavage. On my face it is my eyes but I don't have time or energy for makeup most days so my dark circles take away from them.

Anonymous

Cross posted Astrid, maybe you'll find one when you least expect it, just keep it on your radar.

ironkurtin

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Angie... my bottom?

How does one showcase their bottom?

Anonymous

Elle, you can still show off your legs with a modest length skirt and anyway you lookfab in skinny jeans! They show off your lovely pins! I hope you can get some rest if you are tired. Sleep works wonders with dark circles. Maybe just a touch of concealer?

Anonymous

Good question Dana

Astrid

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Thanks Diane, I will.

Anonymous

Back in the day I had great legs for mini skirts and made the most of it. That would look very silly now. Besides, with age come veins and spots although leg hair rarely makes an appearance any more...not a good thing as it means poor circulation in that area. I suppose now it's my hair.
Diane, you do a great job with your eyes and brows.

FlorenceFearne

I am a new member, but the idea of penning a long intro in the "Who's Who" thread gives me serious stage fright, so I hope no one minds if I just begin replying to posts.

I love the idea of choosing a favorite feature and playing it up. Although it would be nice if we could love and accept our whole selves, I think this can also serve as a good baby step toward self love. It can be tough to say, "I'm beautiful and fabulous just the way I am," but it's a little easier to say,"Not every part of me has to be perfect for me to appreciate that I have really pretty eyes."

And for those folks who aren't sure what feature they like about themselves - what about just picking one you'd like to emphasize? If you've always wanted to have lush lips, pile on the lipstick. Why settle for what nature gave you?

Anonymous

Hi FlorenceFearne and welcome to YLF! Lovely to have you here. And what fabulous wise words to start off with as well. And yes, baby steps is a good way of putting it and it all helps with self esteem. I hope you enjoy YLF
Joy, you do have lovely hair. I always notice how beautifully it's styled and it looks in fab condition. your trademark

Mo

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I am just lately coming around to the playing up of one's assets. I try and take the extra 5 minutes for some blush and lipcolor, concealer on some of the darker spots. My struggle is my hair. I love it long and loose, but when I put it up for work I just feel bleh about it. Always pinning loose strands with a bobby pin or tucking behind an ear.
I will say that every year I move beyond wanting to have perfect features, whether it be straighter teeth, or a smaller nose. Each year brings more and more acceptance of the whole me.

Anonymous

You do have the most fabulous hair, but I hear you about the styling up problems. You are right, too that more acceptance comes with age. But also maybe the upkeep can be more of a struggle, for me at least . I have several more years on you We do what we can eh?

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