I hate to say this, but I think this is the very reason I used to dress on the conservative side. I'm a stay-at-home mom, but let me tell you, other moms can be just as vicious as the corporate world. I am very curvy, and I don't want to come off too sexy. Not because I'm uncomfortable with myself, but I just get sick of the judgement. Now that I'm 40, I've sort of come into my own and don't care nearly as much about what others think. I like what so many of you have to say, and I love how confident many of you are.

I am in the same boat. I have always tried to cover up my curves since I was 14 and I couldn’t figure out why no matter what I would wear I would be stared at ;(
I am not flirtatious with my body but it made me feel like a s—- I am just now at 30 beginning to realize that MAYBE the reason people stare is because of my body shape and NOT because I ask for the attention. I WISH there was a balance between sexy and classy with my figure. Everything I wear that my friends wear without an issue make me look like I’m trying to be sexy.

I understand your emotions completely. I am not an hourglass, but I work in a predominantly male field. I have always been incredibly self conscious about evidencing any sign of femininity. I am so sorry for the crass and thoughtless looks/comments that you have to put up with.

I can remember once when my sister and I went to a country store near our home. We were both wearing shorts. We are both hourglasses but my sister was a good 30 pounds heavier than I and her curves far more pronounced. The store owner told my sister to go home and put some clothes on and that she looked inappropriate, but said nothing at all to me. In fact, she didn't seem to even notice that I was wearing shorts. My sister who was 14 at the time, cried and cried about it. She was so angry because the lady had basically called her a slut, simply because her young body was so curvy. In the years that have followed my sister has learned to love her curvy body but she has endured enormous amounts of ridicule over it and over her fashion choices to dress it up.

This is a 7 year old thread!

But the sentiment that Caley expressed is real to this day.

Also, I think that another poster suggested that Caley look in the archives for further info/old threads on body type!

Oh wait am I posting in the wrong places ?
And Sarah, what poster ?

No Caley it's fine to post on a really old thread. As Sterling said the emotion you feel about this is real to you now. It does sometimes happen that new posters post on old threads after doing searches and I find it interesting. Many of the forum members from 7 years ago have dropped away but there are some familiar names on this thread, people who are still around. I saw your other thread with pics- lovely figure. And sorry about your ex, glad you are finding yourself again.
I've been on YLF for almost 2 years now and it has been awesome interacting with people all over the world with a common interest.

Thank you, Jenni!