@Runcarla - wish could heal alt things.
@ Jane - you are helping with listening. That makes a difference.
@ Joy - It's just me and my husband, and of course my mother who lives 20 minutes away. Her big thing is my childhood home which she does not want to sell off, but it's just too big for her and she knows she can't maintain it any longer. But, she doesn't want to move either. Of course we've asked her to move in with us, but she refuses to move to the city and I refuse to move back to the suburbs. So she stays, using the fact the house is paid off, and it's just too expensive to buy or rent something smaller. She has enough money so that's not the problem. Anyway, I'm sure I'll figure something out.
@Barbara Diane - I hope I find that peace somehow. And Thank you.