Ack, this thread went sour.
Florence, don't think that at all. This is not the first time we end up hashing this one out, nor will it be the last.
Marley, junior high does sound like such a great idea... I wish I could do that
Zap over and out!

I think this is teetering on the type of politeness that can be more stifling than friendly. To me, this is taking the step beyond if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all to Don't call out a list of people to say nice things to because you will inadvertently be saying something not nice to the ones left out. We also know that it does not go without notice when we don't receive many positive comments (or any comments at all) when another member does. To save those feelings should we not give any public praise? or should we not comment? or should we start counting responses and doling them out based on fairness rather than based on how we feel moved by what we see?

I think that this forum is one of the most thoughtful and most kind groups of women I've ever seen on the internet or anywhere really. I want to echo the sentiments of others that I've seen over the years on this, and other forums, who say if you aren't getting what you need or want out of a forum you need to look both at what you're putting in and what you're expecting.

Traci, I really like your last line. Thanks for that insight.

my 1 cent:
I think everyone is made to feel included on this forum with Angie at the helm. People are also awesome about giving constructive criticism when asked. Sometimes I have an odd thought like - something about that does not look right to me. But if I don't have an alternative idea to offer -i.e a potential solution, a 'construct' if you will I keep quiet and usually some bright bulb will pick up on what it is that can make a wiw look off.

The thing that is really interesting to me is that none of us are gen X most of us are older. As someone who worked extensively with medical students we were taught the 'sandwich' method. start with something good to say, then enter the constructive criticism that is specific and then end with something good again.
This is because this generation has grown up with validation at every stage of their life. Even the losers in the soccer match get a medal and a 'great job'. I always tell my bebe well played but you guys can do better.

Come on guys, we are all fabbers in our own mind ( or should be), external validation is icing on the cake but being happy with your own style is the ultimate goal. And that is something no amount of external validation can help with . it's one's own inner sartorial journey.

Traci and Sona - I agree!

I think the issue is not IF paying a compliment is exclusionary. That would be bananas in my book. I think the issue is with threads that go in the vein of naming style icons or inspirational members. They are bittersweet to some, and you know what? I am no one to judge if such a reaction is immature or childish.

Truth be told, those "name your style icons" threads never go well. They just don't.

And Sona, I agree. One should never attempt to find validation outside of self. That is a recipe for disaster.

I vote lets just have tea and cake.

xo

You are right Angie. I am sorry if I ended up being too intense on the topic.
Tea and cake it is!

O's Simple Summer Layered Delight
(gluten-free, no baking, as-you-like-it quantities)

• Mix ground almonds and dissected coconut and sprinkle at the bottom of the serving dish.
• Layer frozen berries on top.
• Sprinkle with brown sugar.
• Mix double cream. Add greek yoghurt. Ratio 1:1 approx. Add vanilla essence and some icing sugar.
• Cover the berries.
• Leave for several hours (the cream will cool down, the berries will start melting and soak the coconuty base) and enjoy. Don't forget to leave one serving for yourself as the whole thing may be gone before you've had your share - learnt it the hard way.

Not at all, Zap. I enjoy your lateral thinking. You know that

That looks perfect, Ornella! The almond and coconut base has my mouth watering. I'm in with a cuppa with Zap!

Team Angie!

I'm back - got a good night's sleep - have had my first cup of coffee. Feeling good. O - I completely agree with and understand the intent of your thread - diversity - YES! That's it - and there are many different ways to get inspiration from YLF!
And now, I'm going to have myself a slice of that delicious looking Summer Layered Delight! Yum!

Ornella, talk about perfect timing! My gluten-sensitive friend and her husband are coming to dinner tonight and I was searching my computer for something that would work for our dessert. Summer Layered Delight it is!

Just another way to be inspired by YLF.

LOL Gaylene, I'm always here if you need GF inspiration

Thanks you Ornella! I'm GF and am always looking for a good recipe. Maybe we should start a thread "fabulously GF".