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A twist and a laugh on "then and now"

Helena

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Hi friends, just have to share this laugh - I went hunting for an early WIW to do a 'then and now' as these are so fun! Stumbled upon the first time I did a year-end reflection - in 2015, looking to 2016. Here's an excerpt showing the goals I identified. Do I laugh or cry at this?? (Nemosmom, the bolding is for you lol!!) The more things change *sigh* ... on the plus side, at least clearly I've defined the problem correctly hahaha!!

1. Shop with personal intention - for need or love, as mentioned, not to check off a list or follow anyone else.
2. Stick to my style, but try something trendy each season - even fails are successes if it means I am staying engaged and interested.
3. Embrace my ultra-casual day to day lifestyle, but continue to "polish up" daily (prettify my hair and makeup). Even my hoodie can look cute with some lipstick and freshly-washed hair.

*facepalm*

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Latest reply was from cindysmith

Anonymous

Funny after reading back how often the same things come up year after year....

Liesbeth

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Thanks for sharing that aha with us :). Maybe there IS no problem but the fact that we're so aspirational especially end of year ;).

Angie

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Well. I think it's FABULOUS, Helena, You are self-aware, get down to the nitty gritty, and reap the reward. You simply need to give yourself a big pat on the back for GETTING IT and achieving your goals. Rock on.

nemosmom

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I am cracking up! Sometimes we need to give ourselves gentle reminders as we go into a new year. And, really, that was only a couple of years ago! You have stuck to your style, but added trendy (forest green, but in your silhouette; the shoulder detail in your new sweater; the beloved BR pullover), and you always look polished!

Runcarla

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Don’t beat yourself up, TG. It took 4-5 years before I started to feel ‘sorted’ as our fearless leader would say. What helped was writing in a notebook that I call my fashion journal - starting 2 years ago. I used only 5 pages last year, but whenever I opened it to make a note, I would see my fashion statement and goals recorded as well as purchase and purge history. The paper and pencil visual reminder made a big difference and could be carried in my purse when shopping.

Suz

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Do you know what teachers say? You have to teach something 3 ways AND reinforce it by saying what you're going to do, what you're doing, and what you've done (afterwards) or nobody will take anything away. I think it's true for our own inner lessons, too.

I can't tell you the number of times I remind myself of the same stuff and seem not to have learned it. Sometimes it's because I'm overly ambitious and try to meet too many goals at once. Maybe this goal was premature. You probably met others that year and 2020 is the year for this one!

Helena

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You are guys are so kind and lovely - thanks for not saying "GET A CLUE YOU STUBBORN GIT!!"

Carla, I love that idea - I do write but the notes end up scattered about (or in old posts) - I think I'll try this for 2020! xx

Cardiff girl

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You are consistent and that is a gift.

rachylou

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Yes. This is my style journey: trying to remember to stick to my own style.

Jaime

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Well I say they are all excellent goals and really worth renewing!

Gigi

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I think this is good. It shows that you are on the right track! If your style goals were wildly different from year to year, then I would be worried...

Firecracker (Sharan)

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I agree with others here: consistency is a virtue!

notsaf

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I've been thinking a lot about this. As someone who likes to understand rules in other domains of my life, I think one of the keys here is to figure out how to write my own rules for dressing. I'm ok with checking things if the list, as long as it's one I wrote. Hope that makes sense, thinking it might resonate with you! Happy holidays to you and your family!

cindysmith

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The more things change LOL

I think we are all face-palming over some of our "then" moments. I can't even go back and look at mine for fear I will die of shame