Interesting...I do see what you are seeing. Try the semi-tuck and see if it helps.
It may also be that it's altogether too "soft" for you. Not enough structure overall, combined with a softer, more muted colour palette that gives you less definition and pizzazz than usual.
I have found for myself two things.
Even though I'm a cool summer in colours and theoretically look really good in softer, low contrast outfits (like the taupe jeans outfit yesterday)....those outfits also have to have some structure or a pop of contrast ... or I fade away and get lost. Which isn't "me."
Also, because of my own fairly straight body type (not a true rectangle, but somewhat rectangular, with angular lines in face -- and haircut) -- I need something in my outfit to echo or reinforce those straight or angular lines. This is why, for me, going too drapey just won't work (and why, say, "our" leather jacket from Danier is so awesome.) I can do some softness and drape (and love it on others! and also to a degree on me) but I need to keep it balanced with a sharper line.
None of this may apply to you, of course. Different colouring, different body types (although with some similarities, as we've noted!), different face shape (albeit similar hair) etc. But I thought I'd raise it as some stuff to ponder for yourself.