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rae

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Ah, when did I get so trendy?!

B/W stripes, boyfriend jeans, silver bag, and galaxy oxfords, all in one go. But for some reason, this particular pile of trends does not offend me. *shrug* Worn out to make some returns on what turned out to be a really warm first day of March.

A wee bit dejected today, between DH's comments about my hair and my jeans. Normally I don't listen, but it's sometimes hard to take being called a "young Chinaman with breast implants" and basically being told that I am being brainwashed into liking bizarre and ugly things by paying attention to fashion. He is not being mean about it, just teasing, but yeah. Not really helpful as I start a career centered on fashion. -_-

Anyone else out there get persecuted for following trends? Even if you only wear the ones you genuinely like?

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Latest reply was from Sona

goldenpig

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Don't listen to DH! You look fresh and fab!

I totally sympathize. You know how my DH feels about trendy items like my H&M floral pants and anything with fur or leopard. He thinks my J Crew bubble necklace looks really silly too. He's just got a more conservative fashion sense whereas I like to go crazy and have fun!

Thistle

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You look fab! No Chinaman to me, and I have been to China. You have superb fashion sense and are going to rock the fashion world.

Men are odd sometimes. Mine loves leopard. And silver. And all sorts of outrageousness my conservative self balks at. Yet, he wears jeans and tees ever single day.

Anonymous

Ah the peanut gallery was busy today
I think hubs is going thru an adjustment period. No worries!
You look great.
Is that a fossil belt? I think I have the same one.

catgirl

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I think it's just that so many trends happen to fit your style right now. I know I feel that way. Slouchy pants? Metallics? Galaxy prints? Oxfords? Been looking for them all my life! You ROCK.

As for DH, feh! Have you read the magazines where they interview guys about street style? CLUELESS!

Day Vies

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I get teased by DH for being SUPER girly. He makes fun of my daily "cover shoots", my closet, my make up etc. But he is always happy to have me looking fab on his arm when we go out. I really like this outfit, and it's even better when you say that it's an expression of who you are. You don't look trendy to me because you look so authentic and unique. As an aside I cut my hair REALLY short 10 years ago and wore it like that for about 18 months. I loved it, but there was a lot of not so funny boy jokes. I say all that to say enjoy being you and the you that you are becoming. I enjoy watching you because it's real. (there I said it

Aida

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*raises hand* Most definitely! I think your hubby and mine would get along quite nicely, they seem to have similar fashion associations You look great today Rae! And not overly trendy to me. Just casual cool.

Raisin

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Silly man! You do look great, so I hope he comes around to the new 'do. Your outfit is very fresh and fun too. It seems like sometimes men are more attached to their women having long hair than the women are. It looks great though, and just remind him that it's your job to be fashionable!

Caro in Oz

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Sometimes the people we love are threatened by changes we make:) I would talk to him about how you feel. Imo you need to come to an understanding because this is your chosen career.

Transcona Shannon

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Yeah, those men we love can make us crazy sometimes, can't they? You've made a lot of changes lately Rae and maybe it's just making him a bit uncomfortable. I totally agree with Aida - you look casual cool.

Karie

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"Teasing" at the expense of others is never funny, and the opinion that matters the most is the opinion you have of yourself. And you rock, girlfriend! I love your style!
And yes, I have had comments sent my way for following certain trends over the years, to which I just respond, "I will wear whatever I like" (that's the printable version).
I think you will have a fantastic career in fashion!

Tanya

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Rae, you look wonderful! I really like your outfit, and I would call it "quietly trendy". To me, that is an outfit that is trendy but that is not obvious to people who are not aware of the current trends. That is what I strive for in my lab dressing.

I would ignore your DH comments, I am sure he means nothing bad, but words can sometimes sting even if not intended that way.

Tina.b

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You look so fantastic, I cannot bare it! You look very modern. Men in general always seem to take the long way round.

Beth Ann

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Fashion is a form of creative art, and art always generates diverse responses. Many times we first resist unfamiliar things, until we give ourselves permission to enjoy them. DH will come around!

I think the trends you're sporting today are all very approachable. I would wear this in a heartbeat. As a matter of fact, I have a very similar top (except mine is slouchy -- even more trendy), bfs, a silver cross body. I need the oxfords, though. I've been searching for perforated nude oxfords for months!

Runcarla

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*duh!*. Double post...

Runcarla

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Love the outfit. Like Beth Ann said, very approachable, but so stylish. I'm crushing on the hair. You have such elegant facial structure, and this shows it off beautifully. Very feminine...

MNsara

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{{{hugs}}} you look SO adorable in your new hairdo! Today it seems less spikey than earlier and both looks are totally adorable for you!!

It is the rare man that really gets style or fashion. Your husband is (maybe unfortunately) more normal than not. Then add in the male approach to communication and you have all sorts of potential trouble. . .

Know that you look fabulous and still unique! It's just that you changed your version of uniquely Rae, and that has your DH temporarily confused

rae

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Thanks for all the encouragement - this is why we need girlfriends... to counteract the husbands when needed.

Natalie, yes, I remember thinking that my DH would have reacted the exact same to those floral pants. Does your DH know he is conservative? Mine has no idea, lol.

Thistle, mine wears cargo shorts and a tee every day. But he is very particular about them!

Zap, mine is by Planet Funk, via the flea market. Very pleased that it looks like a Fossil.

Una, you make a good point, that I often forget. These styles will not always be around, so I am buying a lot to hoard for later. I'm still kicking myself for passing up TWO galaxy midi styles from Nordies... it is nice to have a non-nautical striped tee finally!

DV, that was such a lovely comment. I super duper appreciate it, because one of my top goals is to look genuine and not contrived. Thank you!

Aida, I think so, too. One of these days, we have to go out to a ballgame and eavesdrop while the menfolk discuss our crazy pants.

Raisin, the sad thing is that DH likes gals with short hair! Hopefully it will grow into something he is more comfy with. Ideally I wanted it a couple inches longer, anyway.

Caro and Shannon, YES. He does not like change.

Karie, that is a perfect strategy. I'm totally going to steal it and say I wear baggy jeans because I LIKE them. End of story.

Tanya, I agree. He doesn't mean harm, I can tell. I'm sure some would have a way worse reaction.

Beth Ann, love the comparison to art. Gotta adopt the artist's stance and think, "as long as they're talking about it!" Good luck with the perforated oxfords - would be so cute!

Runcarla, no one has ever mentioned my bone structure or called my features elegant before I chopped my hair off. That makes me happy!

Sara, good point. I sometimes forget that DH is A Guy. He is so atypical in many ways - hates football, for example - but he sure doesn't get fashion...

ElleH

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I think you look great, hair, clothes & all. My DH's opinion matters to me & I talked about this on another post when someone was getting flak for her BFs, so I understand your feelings. But...if you work in fashion it has to have a higher priority than his opinion as it is your job. I don't work in fashion so my DHs opinion carries a lot of weight with me.

Suz

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Rae, late here - just wanted to offer virtual hugs. We are most vulnerable when we've just made a major change like a hair cut. You look beautiful, but hubs may need some time to get used to it.

I agree with Caro. If the teasing continues, a frank and open talk about the fact that it hurts might be a good idea. He probably means no harm but when he sees that it DOES demoralize you right now, he will back off. If he is like my hubby, he might argue for a few minutes first, telling me I am being overly sensitive, etc. etc. -- to which I just say, "You know, you might be right. Maybe I am overly sensitive. But this is how I feel right now and I really need your support. Can you please keep your comments to yourself?"

My hubs is now much better at this, I DO get teasing and eyerolling at times over the picture-taking thing. And some days he will walk in when I am trying an outfit out and say, "I don't like THAT!!" But on the whole he offers far fewer unsolicited comments.

retailgirl

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Hi Rae, just wanted to congratulate you on your new job. I was a POV and Narrative manager at Nordstrom and you will be successful in that department...more traffic than Savvy! A few tips: focus on making your customers happy, not on your commission. Don't take a reading of your sales until the end of your shift, if you are having a bad day it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you are working with a customer in the dressing room, take out the rejects as you go...it will make it less confusing for your customer and will mean you have less to put back at the end! The In store alterations department can be your best friend...they are magicians and can help you close a sale. Don't forget you can sell from any department in the store. Learn the layout of the shoe stockroom and you can quite often sell shoes to go with an outfit! Most of all, have fun! It is so rewarding to help someone look terrific. You will love it.

retailgirl

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Hi Rae, just wanted to congratulate you on your new job. I was a POV and Narrative manager at Nordstrom and you will be successful in that department...more traffic than Savvy! A few tips: focus on making your customers happy, not on your commission. Don't take a reading of your sales until the end of your shift, if you are having a bad day it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you are working with a customer in the dressing room, take out the rejects as you go...it will make it less confusing for your customer and will mean you have less to put back at the end! The In store alterations department can be your best friend...they are magicians and can help you close a sale. Don't forget you can sell from any department in the store. Learn the layout of the shoe stockroom and you can quite often sell shoes to go with an outfit! Most of all, have fun! It is so rewarding to help someone look terrific. You will love it.

bj1111

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rae...snorfle on " menfolk"

doesn't your hubs know, the chinaman hair cut is more bowl like and requires the use of an actual bowl?

rae

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Wow, Retailgirl, thank you so much! I have a shift coming up, so I will take all you said to heart. I did not know we could bring shoes up! Wonderful. Honestly, what you said about not looking at the stats is great news - focusing on the customer is what I want to do anyway and is much easier for me.

Sona

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Rae: the men in our lives do not get 'it' a lot of the time. That being said perhaps being extra loving towards him and saying " hmmmm, now does that make you think of me as a chinese boy with breast implants" after a deep, toe curling smooch maybe one way to get him to stop saying things like that. being sexually attractive to our mate while keeping ou own sartorial stylistic leanings as well can be a tough balancing act. You look fab, babe and as long as you believe that, in the end its all that matters.
xoxo.