Rachy, so true. We want to be seen, known, recognized...
On the whole I think Tex and Andrea are right -- it takes a person who's quite aware of style and design or at least interested in it to really "get" one's style.
But sometimes even interest in style won't guarantee it. I have a good friend, a poet, whose own style is a sort of funky rocker chic. Something like that. Very eclectic and a bit edgy but also feminine. And quite embellished and maximal. She's really tall, and she wears it all so incredibly well! She looks amazing.
Anyway, we were looking at bags together one day and I recall she recoiled at one I picked out as "far too plain" for me.
No, it wasn't. It was too plain for her. For me, it was (almost) plain enough.