Excellent reply thank you. I am not sure that being the perfect minimalist is likely to work when a person has a family. Also I very much worry about sustainability of buying and then donating clothing! Presumably without 30 + wears? I see the push-pull you are talking about though. As you probably know I have had the opposite issue to minimalism, buying too much and not donating enough to counter what I was buying. This year I have been much, much better, purchasing only 9 items and being gifted one item. I have also donated 16 items with another 5 ready to go. Of those 21 only 5 have had under 30 wears, mostly past mistakes like high heeled shoes. What I would like to get to is only donating for wear rather than for either discomfort or change of mind. However I am aware that could also become a trap similar to your traps! It also leaves the donated clothing looking worn- which makes the end status of it more likely to be landfill, although I do use a system where it can go to rag recycling. Difficult to make right decisions... I do feel much more in control now though and that I am not wasting resource as I once did.