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Hmm...I use to comment(actually saying yay or nay(with/without explanations)) but think I never voted as I didn't really knew tabs were there-how weird is that???? LOL!!! I realised only now that there they are at the beginning of the post, but it's quite difficult for me to see white on a very light grey background and even if would have seen them, sometimes I don't have the time to go back to the tittle to vote, so maybe if only tabs would be at the end of the post...or so...dunno:-(.
It's possible that I've been guilty of this in the past.
I always figured the vote option was there for people to get more opinions rather than just the ones who could write out an explanation. I don't see the purpose in the voting option if we're supposed to vote and post every time. For this reason, I almost never use the poll option. I assume if you post a poll you are more interested in a black and white answer rather than a full on analysis. Do some of the features automatically assign a yay/nay poll?
It's not easy being the lone dissenter around here, either. I've been the lone "yes" to a post asking if something accentuates a feature they were trying to not accentuate and then noticed later that my response was mentioned several days later in an unrelated post. It made me wonder if our analysis sometimes stays with the poster longer than we intend. In this case I wouldn't have noticed the accentuation of the feature if it hadn't been an outright question, but when I looked for it I did see the imbalance. I later felt like I had added to that poster's self consciousness of that feature and decided I'd rather keep my nays to myself, especially when in the minority.
Thanks for that, Traci. I've been a lone dissenter sometimes too -- and sometimes I just hold my tongue because its obvious I'm not getting something everyone else does, or it's a personal aesthetic that I don't resonate with, and I don't want to hurt feelings so I hold my tongue. But in that case I generally don't vote either, if that option is given.
This has actually been a more constructive thread for me than I expected. It actually got me thinking about feedback and approval and why it's so important to many of us.
I just voted *nay,* but I'm not naying anything in your post, Janet. I just didn't want anyone to think I was a pollyanna. Hehe.
Thought I'd say, tho, YLF'ers are lovely, cheerful, encouraging people. I suspect explanations of nay votes often show up as encouragement in a particular direction.
And to be honest, I don't know that I've ever seen anything bad on YLF... or frankly IRL. Except things like dd's ratty Sponge Bob pjs...
I've also found this conversation interesting. One of the things that I value so much about YLF is how we can share constructive criticism in a kind and encouraging way. That's often lacking in female groups, as we've been taught "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". That might be the best tack in some situations but I think it's counterproductive when people are explicitly asking for honest feedback, as they are when they post a thread with the yay/nay option turned on.
