He texted me Happy Mothers Day this morning & was stunned to hear my son's done nothing. I know he's missing his own mother, who died over a decade ago. "Hugs" says you care and want to comfort someone, but it is also banal, corny and cheesy. Worse, it can sound flippant and insincere. Knowing this guy, I absolutely cannot get wordy or syrupy if my goal is to help him feel better, not show off what a great person I am. There are so many great writers here--can anyone help?
Related, a friend posted this to my FB, about the different meanings of Mother's Day for different people:
in addition this year may be especially difficult because of COVID-19 and quarantines
On this weekend, some things to keep in mind:
1. Not everyone has a mother. Not everyone is a mother.
2. Some no longer have mothers, and this is a REALLY hard day for them.
3. Some have mothers with dementia who do not recognize them any more.
4. Some have mothers with chronic or terminal illness and are mourning in advance.
5. Some have, for the sake of their sanity, cut all contact with their mothers.
6. Some have difficult, acrimonious, anxiety-filled relationships with their mothers.
7. Some people's mothers are pure evil.
8. Some people serve as mothers but are not "mothers" in the strict sense of the word.
9. Some women have struggled with infertility and this day is a painful reminder.
10. Some mothers have lost children, and will always be mourning.
11. Some women very much wanted to have children, but the timing never worked out, and this day feels like a rebuke.
12. Some women never wanted to have children, and this day feels like a judgement.
13. Some are mothers to special needs children, or children with mental illness, and this is a complicated day for them.
14. Some mothers think this is a bogus "holiday" and do not want to "celebrate" it.
15. Some mothers would like to celebrate and think it's lovely to be remembered.
