But, Steph....WOW. What a smashing outfit. Of course it's sexy. If I saw you walking down the street, I'd be staring, too.

Great question, Jonesy. I have enjoyed reading the responses. My hubby is not in to fashion for himself and would much rather spend time and money on something else. We often dress very differently when going to the same event together. I no longer pay attention to this. He is true to himself. I do ask him for feedback on potential outfits and purchases. Most of the time it is a simple yes or no answer. Sometimes he'll say that he's not into that style or trend, so he can't really comment. But if he says that something doesn't look good on me, I usually listen. He knows my looks in a way that no one else can, so I value his opinion. He is also VERY fond of YLF for taking pressure off him. haha

My husband is definitely a more casual dresser than I am. We're going to church tonight and he's wearing shorts and a golf shirt and I'm wearing a blouse, jeans, and heels. He just said, "We're going as Lady and the Tramp!"

Fascinating read! It is interesting to hear all the differing levels of input/interest/savvy-ness. I do ask my husband his opinions on nearly all purchases, but ultimately go with my gut. He has very strong opinions, and pretty good taste, but unfortunately has extremely narrow style filters (growing ever so slowly) that don't coincide with my personal style. He's also brutally honest so when he doesn't like something I get answers that range from "I don't like it" to "I think that looks horrible" (he phrases it as the item, not me <3). However, he is also incredibly supportive of my interest in fashion and is happy if I'm happy. I think his likes-to-dislikes ratio for items in my closet is at about 30% likes to 70% dislikes, hehe. (He has always been very good at knowing what hair cuts look flattering on me so I do take that opinion very seriously.)

After I'd spent a lot of time learning the "rules" and trends for my clothes, he spent some time learning about what's flattering/in-style for men (mainly within this past year). I think his own style would be excellent... if he didn't hate to shop. As a result, what he actually wears is OK but not as great as it should be considering his actual style tastes; and now that he's learned he also needs to get nearly everything tailored it's that much harder to get him to go buy new clothes. There's always something more worthy to spend that money on

So after all that, his role in my actual journey! At first, I tried to wear things that we both liked but because his filters are so narrow, and so different from my style, I ended up with items that neither of us liked and I was quite unhappy with my progress. This brought me to YLF last year. From there I decided to ignore his tastes and just focus on what I like. This has really allowed me to experiment and understand my own personal style preferences. I think I now know enough about both myself and hubby's preferences to determine when his opinions are being filtered or if something genuinely isn't flattering, so I've been starting to take his opinions into consideration once again with much happier results (after all, he wants me to look good just as much as I do). I'm aiming for a 40-60 likes-to-dislikes ratio increase

EDIT: He's also very very supportive of my participation here on YLF; happy that I have somewhere to discuss and grow, but I'm sure also happy to have some pressure away from him

I've been a slacker today (busy with work) and have not kept up with this thread! Such fascinating stuff. It certainly sounds like most partners are very enthusiastic about YLF--particularly if it takes some of the heat off of them :). I think all of the negotiation and give and take people mention is really interesting. It's funny how people evolve as individuals over time, and as a couple, you know? Anyway, thanks so much for sharing--I've enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts and experiences.