Peri, that's my worst one too ... glad it was helpful to you!

Helena, you are delightful. And crack me up

THANK YOU for doing some soul searching and sharing it. You are fab.

I have three words for you:

• Authenticity
• Signature Style

Be less affected by others! Create an authentic style, and the rest will follow with ease. Your signature is PERSONAL. Milk it - ESPECIALLY IN 2018 where women are more empowered than ever. (As for the "structure" - listen to those feelings, but let them boss you around).

Elizabeth, no one on YLF will pressure you to purge your skinnies. It's AUTHENTIC for you. That's what it's all about.

Well said!

Great thread!! I’ve bookmarked it.

A pleasure to read. Sometimes it pays to be slightly oblivious to your surroundings, or as I like to think selectively focused.

Fun post! I would like to purge a shopping tendency: to go ALL IN on something. I buy a sock boot, love it, decide I will love it forever and never wear anything else, buy another pair in a different color and then.... more often than not, either I don’t like the other color as much or I soon get sick of the style. It’s a waste! I should remember that style is a constant evolution, not some kind of fortress where you have to supply yourself with enough stuff to get you through.

I need to let go of
* "it'll do"
* "what if"

This was very heartfelt and I can identify about the fear of judgment!
I have been slowly conquering that fear. I think it takes time, and a willingness to buy things that speak to you that are outside your comfort zone. Of course this leads to mistakes, but also to a lot of style growth and confidence.

Angie, those key words will be my mantra! Writing them in BIG LETTERS in the style section of my bullet journal now xoxo

Staysfit, Aquamarine, thank you!

Shevia, to me that speaks of 'priorities in order' ... you're a role model. xx

Jessica, Cindy, wise edit items.

Smittie, definitely - no risk, no growth. It's that simple.

Heart you all!

Jussie, yes - let it go!

This is such a great post and I love the responses. Now that my kids are out of school I don't feel the pressure of judgement and fitting in as I did then but it is a tough one for me. And also the fine line between standing out and being invisible. And I love the point about a desire for more clothes, I am so guilty of that. But what should probably be at the top of my list is "let go of negative self image". I would be so much more content if I just let that go.

Robin, we are channeling princess Elsa in this thread ... let it go!! x