Nebraskim, I do believe you're in my relate/time category. I have a dd, but I've never been pregnant or married or anything. I have nothing against the whole thing, I'm just not particularly motivated. Easily distracted by Martha Stewart craft projects, lol, for weeks at a time. One thing I don't like as a non-mother mother, is using children as an excuse. Folks do do that sort of thing. Let's be honest. Confession time - me and my mom sometimes use my being a type 1 diabetic as an excuse to minimize our time at family gatherings. We say (to our hilarity), 'we'll just come for dessert,' and wait to be called on it.
Anyways, how dd came to live with me is quite the story, but a LOT of people were 'oh, heh, yuck' about the idea of a child. They were just 'child - yuck.' She's grown now, and yet I'm getting more and more of it. To shevia's point, the only people who don't do this in my small world are people with ties to other countries. I will also add I find there's a tie in to bodily functions. Just an incredible squeamishness. I'm not sure it's separate from an overall discomfort with...reality. When I lived in SF I saw virtually no children and stood in line behind these long lines of people at the supermarket with big boxes of plant poison...I mean, you get a postage stamp of soil in the city and people preferred barren soil even in that square foot of space. People are this way with food too. It's like they'd rather eat a pellet and why Alice Waters started the school yard garden project...people are afraid of their food.