Oh my goodness! (((Hugs))) x

I wish I could pour you a glass of wine. I am sure it was a terribly difficult decision and you are being very brave. I am glad you are surrounded by good friends and send you the warmest wishes for continued strength and courage.

Mary, I am so, so sorry about this. My thoughts are with both of you. Wow, I am truly so sorry.

Mary I am so sorry. I am sending prayers, good thoughts and virtual hugs your way.

I am gobsmacked. Mary, I'm so sorry...it must seem like such a shock of cold water to your system, but from your post it sounds like it's a necessary change for you both. Strength to you in the coming days.

I too am so sorry you are facing such a challenge - and though I don't know you personally, I sense that you are strong and up for the challenge and the next phase of your life. To make the challenge easier, remind yourself that you are doing the best you can and making the best choices for you and your future. (((hugs))) to you.

I am so incredibly sorry to hear this Mary! I know these are difficult times but you are such a strong and wonderful woman I am sure you will come out of it even stronger.

Sending you tons of hugs and lots positive energy!

Oh Mary, I am so sorry to hear this. Ending any relationship, even for the right reasons is so hard. Sending you a hug.

Mary, I'm so sorry to hear about this. What a courageous decision. Sending you all the positive energy and thoughts I can. Know that you have a whole community of people who are thinking about you, and pulling for you. Big, big hugs.

Mary, I'm so very sorry to hear that you are navigating this difficult path. Sending you healing and positive thoughts.

I am so very sorry to hear that you have been through a difficult time, and my thoughts will be with you as you're moving into this new stage in your life. Sometimes it is easier to breathe when you have actually MADE a courageous but painful decision, rather than grappling with what to do over and over. I hope that your move into your new place will bring your solace and much-needed breathing space. I'm glad to hear that things between you and Mr. K are on relatively civil terms, and very much hope that continues, especially as you are preparing to move out on your own. Big hugs to you.

Thanks, Kari! A few days ago I was with my BFF and I told her I'd gone to bed early and slept for 10 hours and it was just great. She exclaimed "OMG! How can you sleep like that with everything that's going on?" And I said, "For the same reason only guilty people sleep in jail -- because they can finally stop worrying about getting caught!"

Oh, Mary - I am sending a huge hug and as much strength as you need to carry on (I know how much you have already, though!). It is tough to go through this even when it's the right thing to do, and I hope you will call on your friends here as well as IRL whenever needed. PM me any time....

I am sorry I haven't seen this before. Due to a super busy time in my life, I spend very little time on the forum and never make it to the off topic section. I'm sure I wouldn't have seen this post if it weren't for the new design.
Anyway, I just want to add to the YLF support network: Wishing you clarity to see through the complicated issues, good sense to make the right call, and strength to persevere through difficult times...

I am sorry I haven't seen this before. Due to a super busy time in my life, I spend very little time on the forum and never make it to the off topic section. I'm sure I wouldn't have seen this post if it weren't for the new design.
Anyway, I just want to add to the YLF support network: Wishing you clarity to see through the complicated issues, good sense to make the right call, and strength to persevere through difficult times...

Yes, TOTALLY get that. The worrying and waiting, not to mention knowing that something is wrong and trying to live through it, is the worst. Sometimes it is just a relief to be able to take action and to know that you have options, and you are NOT stuck in a bad situation.

I know you will be okay - you absolutely amazed me in Los Angeles because you were even brighter, stronger, and more vivacious than I imagined you to be from our interactions online, and it was a true pleasure to get to spend time with you face to face. But in the meantime, even though you know that this is a right and much-needed step to take, it's also very okay to give yourself some time to grieve and mourn what was.

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Oh gosh Mary, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I had wondered about you being a little scarce on here, just when I was getting to know you a little better. You must be going through a whole kaleidoscope of emotions. Sending you hugs and keeping you in my thoughts. xx

Ah, Mary, I'm sorry to hear it. As has already been mentioned, along with the sadness and the uncertainty, having made the decision and knowing it is the right one is often its own comfort (BTDT).

We're here for you and we will be as you forge ahead into your new future. *smooch*

MaryK, I don't have anything wise to tell you, but I feel for you and you are in my thoughts. Ending a long term relationship is never easy. I'm sure you will find strength within yourself when you need it the most. Big hugs from long distance - "fake it 'till you make it".

MaryK, I will take the risk of bringing levity into this sad discussion, so in advance I apologize if I offend you. BUT, that said:

1. I think you need a second apartment for your wardrobe.

2. No, scratch that. You need a separate apartment for your SHOES.

3. Actually, your fabness needs its own complex. It is too immense to contain within one unit.

Mwah!

MaryK, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a divorce, but it's wonderful that you have peace in your heart about the decision and that you have a good support network around you. Big hug!

Not trying to be flippant, but I hope you keep the pretty cat!

Mochi, believe it or not I woke up in a cold sweat the other night worrying about whether my shoes would fit in the new place! LOL But it has a fab walk-in closet so I think I will be okay. Plus I have an over-the-door shoe rack so the overflow can live in the hall closet. Mwah! back atcha!

Alicat, the kitty was Mr. K's originally, and she is old and I don't want to displace her, so I think she will be staying behind. I will miss her but I think it's for the best. If Mr. K starts traveling a lot again we will re-think it as necessary.

Thank you all, again and again, for your love and support. It means the world to me!

You are kind. You are smart. You are important. XOXO

Oh MaryK I'm so sorry to hear this! I was shocked, that was not at all what I was expecting to read, and I'm so sorry you and Mr K have to go through this rough time. I'm glad to hear it's going amicably, and I hope you can sort it all out that way. Big Hugs, and we're here for you any time!

MaryK, I am so sorry you have to go through this, it must be heart breaking!
I wish you strength and peace - <HUGS>

I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. You are fortunate to have friends that can help you through it. Please know that you have friends here on YLF too. Hugs and prayers for you.

Oh MaryK, I don't have the words to tell you how sorry I am. I will be thinking of you. I look forward to the day that you feel well enough to return to us.

XXXXXXX

Hugs to you Mary!! I can only imagine how this decision has weighed on you. You are now on the road and moving forward in your life - each step, each day will get easier. Know that you are loved and valued for being you!