lozz_oz Thanks for posting. Your suggestions were right on. I agree, what good would it do to wear a color I don't like with another color (my hair) that I don't like. So, for sure I will probably wear navy most often and then other colors on top for a change, and after I see what I decide on in snakeskin print. Plenty of shoes, booties, and even jewelry, ie bracelets, necklaces, etc available.
Stagiaire Fash, That is a good theory. I like it.
JAileen, your comments are very interesting and started me thinking about something I will attempt to explain here. I think you always look very nice and appropriately dressed, and love your hair. But, with that said I never once focused on your wearing a lot of gray. And last year, or so you wore a blue denim chore jacket (I believe that is what it is called) and I liked it so much , that I reluctantly ordered one, with intention of returning if it didn't work for me. Now, nobody better ever tell me I can't keep my jacket! It's perfect for me. After all this is said, I am thinking maybe I will start liking grey better.
And I suppose I am already, since I have become interested in the snakeskin.

Dear Bridgie, your earlier descriptions of your outfits have always sounded "playful elegant" to me, so yes, I absolutely think of you as elegant.

And please don't feel that you have to wear red lipstick. That was just a suggestion. Perhaps a more pink-ish lipstick will be better. As for myself, in recent years, I have felt that clear, strong red (in lipsticks as well as clothes) is "overpowering" me. My reds have to be just a bit muted and always bluish. Sometimes, a raspberry lipgloss is enough. I hope you will find some great solutions for your colouring.

By the way, my "home outfit" this night was grey&black snakeskin ballet flats, grey jeans, light grey crewneck pullover and clear purple lightweight wool shawl with pompoms.

Bridgie, I just wanted to make a suggestion about your hair, since you liked my mum’s hair. Mum went natural a few years ago. She is very salt and pepper. She doesn’t mind it but she gets bored with it. So recently she tinted it blonde. A tint not a bleach. This didn’t cover the grey but it just softened the contrast of her hair a little. She looks more “mink” now than “salt and pepper”. I’m not saying you should do this (I think salt and pepper is lovely) but it’s something you could consider if you are not happy with it. She used a supermarket tint. The only thing I’d caution is that she did have something of an allergic reaction to the dye, so please use with care.

And I think snakeskin would be a great addition. My mum has also found lots of colours suit her better now that she is grey. Silver in particular.

Janet, thanks for all the encouraging comments. I'm listening, I really do follow your posts and think you are handling your transition very well. Your comments on jewelry, on my thread and your post last week about your rose gold resonated with me. But, I think it is going to work out O.K. for me. Here is my story. When I had natural black hair I preferred white gold and silver. My engagement and wedding ring (1956) was white gold at my big hint. And they are still in excellent condition. After my husband passed too early (1969) I wore them another couple of years, then put them away. After that I started wearing mixed metals, I already had silver, silverplated costume jewelry , then started to add yellow gold and thought nothing of mixing the two. And did this for many, many years until I went with the salon, mixed red hair. AT that point, I did not like silver with my colors at all, and I BOXED A LOT OF IT UP AND SENT TO MY DAUGHTER, who would get it eventually anyway, and I have no regrets. And I started wearing ROSE GOLD almost exclusively, along with some yellow gold. Your post last week hit me like a ton of bricks, lol. I intended to comment, sorry I didn't then. Now, I will probably change my mind before this is over for me, but I like silver again, (remember 1956, above), and here is the part that I am doing differently, but I still like rose gold with my salt and pepper hair, and the pinks I wear, and love it with grey., so am holding onto the rose gold, and I have found snakeskin bracelets and necklaces that are perfect, And I think my daughter will be pleased to get the yellow gold I'm getting ready to send her. BTW, I am not going to hint for the silver that I sent her be returned. She dresses very nicely, but she does not take it as seriously as I do.

Joy, I enjoyed the story about your young neighbor. Now, I might have felt differently if I had turned gray 65 or 70 years ago (yeah), but I have always loved what we used to call pre-mature grey btw, that term has not been used once on this lengthy thread.
But very seriously, I love all the encouragement I am getting from you and all my fabulous YLF friends. Thank you so much!

Rachy, Thanks for your comments. So, no, I don't think I look like Lady Bird and in no way is this a political endorsement (ha, not from me, ever), I like the style of Jaqueline Kennedy and Laura Bush equally. And I'm afraid I don't look like either one of them , However, I have to say this. A few years back I was visiting an American friend who was at her charming Canadian companion's home in Canada, and he surely charmed me when he volunteered the remark that I sounded like Laura Bush. He was comparing my very southern accent to her Texas drawl. Then he added that I looked somewhat like her. I loved it!!

suntiger, I glad you told me Mom looks better in winter brights. I have been holding off because (I'm chicken, I guess.) I plan to wear both, sometimes together, and mix and match, according to my mood. I like and enjoy some pastels, but I would hate to think I had to wear them all the time . I hope your Mom enjoys clothes as much as I do, and I hope she stresses much less than I do.

Minaminu, thank you for telling me about purple shampoo! I am anxious to try it.

Star, I love silver, but grey, not so much. It seems to me they are referred to as the same color, and I have a problem accepting it as the same, but I am working on it. Ha.
I love and agree with you comments, about changes looking intentional, even if they are not, and there has to be make-up changes sometimes, and accessories can make all the difference in the world. Thank you!

DonnaF thank you for posting, I admire the way you look in your greys, and your hair is very pretty. I hope you go all silver very soon if that is what you want. I love silver and if mine should ever go all silver, I think I would like that much better than salt and pepper. I think I will always have some pepper in my hair, because my hair was so dark the first one/third of my life. And my mother was salt and pepper with a lot of pepper in it for the remainder of her life after she started going grey.

Shevia, thank you for your comments Your hair is very pretty. I like your idea of wearing blue and burgundy, and not even trying to add grey. I should do that myself, but guess I will try a little grey I will post about that soon.

The Cat, I hope I didn't cause you to think I was going to wear bright red lipstick because you mentioned it. I just tried it because I happened to have three on hand (Gifts with purchases). But I doubt I will ever wear it very often, if ever again. I do love red clothes but usually wear a neutral color lipstick with them. Another comment on red lipstick, I think red lipstick had to be 200% applied correctly with a very steady hand and a lipstick brush or it will look a little smeared. That is just me, of course. Thank you for your always helpful comments.

Brooklyn, Thanks for commenting here. I like you Mom's idea of the blond tint. If blond could work on me I know I would prefer it a 100 times over salt and pepper. Ha, And I may try that a little later, BTW, I think we all could learn something from your Mom. She is one neat and polished lady.

Haha @Stagiaire Fash I've been going grey since I was 16 - I've had people mistake my younger sister for my daughter when I was 14 (they asked me how I 'keep myself so young' haha)! If I can survive that, I suppose I can survive any age-related guessing

I like my grey hair but it's still not 'substantial' enough - I therefore use henna to cover the grey at my temples, but I hope to grow it all out once I'm past the 'Bonnie Rait' stage