I love it when rbf creeps into our threads

Janet, I think you should go for something like one little momma fwiw

You're gorgeous and have great hair! Good luck.

Also think you are a bit hard on yourself. It never surprises our loved ones that we are growing older and softer around the edges, but it seems like our youth goggles get a shock when the mirror tells the truth. That wears off, thank goodness.
You have good thick hair and I think Angies suggestion would rock. Maybe start a little long and cut back as seems right? And maybe a color flash, to accentuate, if it fits your style. You could carry it. While you are young