Jenn's been very clear and generous in discussing her process, in this and other posts. I've learned more than one or two
things for sure.
SF - What you saw as brain-picking seemed to be devolving into the confrontational:
“I'm surprised your approach didn't get you resituated faster than mine did me…You buy more per year and wear a much bigger percent of your wardrobe, so I would've thought it would adapt faster than mine.”
And then adding a bit of victim-blaming at the end "Well she's clearly not in the mood..."