Shannon, I really like the BF WIW's that you have posted so far. When I put on the Bf's yesterday just to see the fit, I thought that is not "me" at all but I really like the new look in the mirror. So it wasn't "me" but i liked it. For you , if it's not you and you dont like it then it is a relationship problem. But there are ways to fix it like others have mentioned above.

Shannon, they may be not your cup of tea and this is OK. However second the suggestion to try them with more structured and sharp companions. My white blazer is a favorite partner for my BF jeans. I also like them with a bit of heel but also with flat oxfords: somehow the edginess of oxfords makes it up for the flatness of them

If I am remembering your recent BF WIWs correctly, I think structure up top may help... as in the rubric (structure, color, etc.) - I think they are worth another shot, as you were so excited to try the look!

ETA: I'd like to see both your leather jackets with the BFs!

I thought you looked cute and sassy in your bf's.

My experience with bfs as been that, as a petite, I prefer them slimmer and rolled longer with a simple, heeled shoe such as the Report Marks bootie. A blazer or button down add structure and dignity to this otherwise super casual look.

However I also understand that sometimes, after experimenting with a look, you discover it just isn't for you. I so much wanted to wear neon yellow skinnies or capris this summer, but after repeated tries, I felt the look just wasn't feeling right on me.

Shannon, it's been said but I agree that just because something looks good, doesnt mean its "you". How we feel is as important as how we look. For me the BF look is something I am happy to pass on amd leave to others as I just don't feel "authentic" in that look. I think you look great in your boyfriends and with some further playing around I have no doubt you will make them work for you. I think it was a recent post where I felt you had really made the look your own.

Denise - I think you have also revealed one of the issues I'm having with the jeans - the width of the legs. Because I'm a larger size and then went up a size to get more slouch, the legs on the Gap BF's are quite wide and big. I'm wondering if perhaps trying a different brand with slimmer legs might help? I also thought about getting Wonder Woman to try and take in the legs from just above the knee down so that they are slimmer - what do you think?

Shannon, I just had another idea. I wonder if what you need is some waist definition. Since BF jeans are worn so low on the hips, and you are an apple, maybe you are losing your waist and you need to add it back to counteract the masculinity. (Maybe this is why I find the BF look very easy to pull off for myself, because my waist is always there whether or not I want to show it).

So maybe try pairing a peplum top or a blazer with a nipped in waist with the jeans?
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